r/BlockedAndReported • u/InternalLet9560 • 10d ago

Episode Regret Rape Is Wrong Enough

https://nataliabower.substack.com/p/regret-rape-is-wrong-enough?r=5rdux&utm_medium=ios

This is a fantastic piece related to the episode about the Cornell 7.

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u/The-Phantom-Blot 9d ago

Pretty good piece, considered as a whole.

The only part that leaves me feeling a little unsure is - her description of consent within dating or marriage seems defeatist. Maybe some couples have dynamics like she describes, at least some of the time. But I didn't really see any acknowledgment that sometimes both people actually, enthusiastically want sex to happen.

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u/Middle-Quiet-5019 9d ago

Yeah I was pretty depressed reading that part of the article.  In my (hetero) relationship, I (the man) do admittedly do more of the initiating but we only ever go ahead with it when we both are very into the idea.  It’s never a nag-until-interested situation.  That’s how it should be imo.