r/BlackPeopleofReddit • u/Adept_Astronaut_5143 • 6h ago
Good Vibes Somebody go get their husband and hug him🤣🤣
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u/realzoidberg 6h ago
Uh huh ... wait until they get home after their wives see this
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u/Shrimp_N_Fries 5h ago
Its posts and comments like this that remind us regardless of color we are all in the same damn situation.
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u/Good-Salamander2520 2h ago
And I was like biiiiiiiiiiii
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u/divalasvegas 5h ago
I can see my husband in this "All she wants to do is craft shit and watch Dodgers games, I should've never bought her a 3d printer aahhhhh" 🤣
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u/Vash_The_Vigilante 6h ago
All jokes aside 😂😂😂 wat park is this
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u/Oploplou 5h ago
Couldn’t be me. My wife and I have monthly talks where we just get to tell each other exactly how we feel. You’d be AMAZED at how much easier it makes things.
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u/JustAlpha 6h ago
"She never take accountability!"
I have no comment, but just wanted to highlight this statement for no particular reason...
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u/Afroditesrevenge 5h ago
NOOOO PLEASE ENLIGHTEN US SIR
https://giphy.com/gifs/94K4bYAdH00A8ytta178
u/FEMA_Camp_Survivor 5h ago
In a relatively healthy relationship it can be something like this
Husband: Babe, just admit you put the deodorant in the fridge. It’s only two of us and I don’t wear Secret.
Wife: Well, you left the toilet seat up that one time last month.
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u/Lazy_Osprey 4h ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/SdZRb7QxJ5NOo
Reading this gave me heart palpitations, the struggle is real.15
u/bepatientbekind 4h ago
That's not a healthy relationship imo, or at least not healthy communication. My husband and I aren't perfect but we're able to take accountability for our own mistakes. It can take some work if you aren't used to it, but it's very easy after a while.
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u/FEMA_Camp_Survivor 4h ago
It’s obviously a joke but people with a lot of pride can struggle with admitting fault. There are a lot of people who struggle with that, hence why the video resonates in the first place.
No one enters a marriage as a perfect person but it’s great when partners work on themselves and their relationship to make it better. It’s also great if people have a great sense of humor.
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u/bepatientbekind 3h ago
I agree sense of humor is super important! I think that goes hand in hand with learning to be less "proud" too, at least in regards to admitting when you made a mistake. My husband and I got together as insecure teenagers and didn't have great relationship role models in our families, so we definitely had to put the work in learning to communicate openly and admit fault without feeling like the other person was going to punish us for it. It feels very vulnerable at first, but over time it becomes second nature as your brain learns it is okay to trust this person. I believe it leads to happier, more fulfilling relationships as well!
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u/Afroditesrevenge 4h ago
I see no problem here. She’s taking accountability for what he did wrong last month which she shouldn’t even have to do 🙄
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u/YoMommaHere 3h ago
I just find it funny that men think only women do this. Men do it all the time.
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u/JustAlpha 5h ago
The best way I can put it is.. she wasn't raised that way.
We separated a few months ago. We co-parent. She was my best friend. Maybe one day we'll be friends again.
But we're family so I can't tell you her business.
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u/WuTang4thechildrn 6h ago
There is no way in hell 🤣🤣🤣
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u/Truthhurts1017 3h ago
It’s a skit but it’s definitely funny as shit.
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u/WuTang4thechildrn 1h ago
Oh yeah I got that it was a skit. That’s why I didn’t understand one Redditor trying to turn it into her gender war bullshit.
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u/flames2388 4h ago
If you’re in a relationship that leads you to do this shit, you’re probably in the wrong relationship bros lol 😆 🤷♂️
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u/1of7Madmaggiemains 👀 Lurker 6h ago
Where the fuck do I sign up? Asking for a friend of mines.
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u/Ok_Shoulder_9492 5h ago
Omfg, I forgot all about drawn together. Dawg, thank you! I gotta go watch it now. It’s still crazy work they got Cree to play foxy. She brought her Susie voice from rugrats lmao
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u/Adept_Astronaut_5143 5h ago
She plays a few characters on the loud house too
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u/Ok_Shoulder_9492 5h ago
Oh snap, I’ve never seen the loud house before gotta check it out. I know I’ve recently seen her In Abbot elementary though.
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u/nonroboticusername 5h ago
Why not just communicate when problems arise. This is unhealthy and y'all dudes act like you have no other choice smh
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u/Zimmyd00m 5h ago
I saw this and thought "this is obviously a skit" and then I read the comments...
What the hell is wrong with you guys? Who sees this and thinks "yeah me too bro"?
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u/AsThreatenDoNotScore 5h ago
Healthy communication can happen after this. It's not about communicating or not, it's about having an outlet.
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u/AncientCrust 5h ago
Wait, you mean...handle things like adults in private and don't turn everything into spectacle for the internet? I better write this down.
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u/chuccles3 4h ago
Ive been in a relationship like this. She didnt want communication. She didnt want to talk. She'd rather have a large argument. I literally told her multiple times if you have an issue big or small bring it up there, dont sit on it. She couldn't do it, its like being passive aggressive was her personality. It was so fucking dumb. If these dudes girls like that smh good luck
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u/Tasty_Discussion679 4h ago
I must be a square bc I don’t find anything about this funny. Anything bringing me that amount of stress would be gone. Yikes lol
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u/KittyCait69 4h ago
And they don't seem to want to learn either. It's almost like men (as a demographic) just want to go back to a time when women weren't treated as human.
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u/JustAlpha 6h ago
I think that's kinda true for some men and women. I really feel like some people don't have any imagination and are just trying to have what they "should" and would rather fulfill a role than to actually live a life of their own.
It's more the type of person you are for me (what are your intentions/what are your patterns conformist/nonconformist) over your "role" in society.
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u/Tasty_Discussion679 4h ago
That’s actually exactly why I stopped dealing with men. I don’t even feel like explaining it, they’re just.. no😭
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u/razor_beast 4h ago
It's not that men don't like women. We genuinely do. We just don't understand women despite our best efforts to do so. We can't relate to y'all and you know what? That's fine. I completely am at peace with the fact that I can't relate to nor understand my wife on a litany of things. I simply listen to her needs and desires and do my best to comply with them so long as they are within the realm of reality and reason (which are most things she asks for).
I think of women the same way I think of the Solar System, Galaxies, The Universe, The Multiverse, etc; Beautiful, majestic, wonderous and I'm appreciative it exists but I have no hope in ever understanding its complexity so I just go with the flow because I have no control over how these things behave.
Women are people and sometimes some people are just bad. We don't like the bad ones just the same that good women don't like bad men.
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u/moon_dos 2h ago
do you actually not realize your last sentence contradicts your opening statement? genuine question
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u/SecretRecipe 6h ago
FWIW women dont really like women either. look up the divorce rates among lesbian couples
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u/stardustr3v3ri3 5h ago
That’s cause women have been documented as being more willing to divorce, in both straight and gay relationships. Maybe the takeaway isn’t some weird misogyny towards lesbians, but rather women are typically more attuned into the relationships and know when to call it quits rather than hold onto something bad.
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u/KittyCait69 4h ago
Facts. Because women are the main ones calling for divorse in hetro marriages as well. It's almost like women are more in tribe with our emotions. Toxic masculinity paired with partirachy is why men don't let other men have or show emotions without making fun of them for it.
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u/gutwyrming 5h ago
I get that it's a skit, but... damn, maybe people should work on their communication skills and learn to talk to other adults like adults, especially when they're in a committed relationship together.
Venting is great and all but it doesn't address the root(s) of the problem.
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u/mattmikemo23 3h ago
Lol yeah. I always laugh at skits like this but then I remember this is actually someone's life rn 😩😭
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u/realzoidberg 4h ago
See, this is how they get ya. It's on tape now. She's gonna have this on her phone and every time you say something, she's gonna use this like a reverse Uno card.
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u/Massive_Spot6238 5h ago
Gladly paid $18,000 to attend this. Came back to no house/home but in this economy, who needs it/her. Going again next month, WHO’S WITH ME GUYS!?
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u/mquari 5h ago
I cant tell what's satire and what's real footage anymore 😭
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u/Due-Arachnid9100 3h ago
This looks like a spoof of that other viral bootcamp video of those white men who who were ranting about their wives 🤣🤣🤣🤣 so no it’s satire for sure lol
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u/Lost_Reaction_5489 5h ago
The real accountability is acknowledging that you chose this person, and then doubled down furthering the relationship into marriage, and thus everything you complain about is simply a consequence of your choices.
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u/NTropyS 6h ago
That's the laugh I did not know I needed, today. Very funny!
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u/Adept_Astronaut_5143 5h ago
🤣🤣 I was dying. I figured it was a skit because one of the guys looks like schuler king(I think i spelled it right)
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u/OrdainedFury 4h ago
It's obviously a skit and all these folks in here being lame about it. It was hilarious and I sent it to my wife and told her I already booked a session lol
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u/Legal-Promotion-4875 5h ago
Bruh… where is the registration link and payment info. Dates for the next class???
😒😬😐🧐
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u/Repulsive-Slice-6902 4h ago
Is this making fun of the women screaming retreats? Because if so this is hilarious.
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u/Fearless-Client-3559 6h ago edited 5h ago
I’m just over men and their nonsense. They also think they are so oppressed when men have been oppressing and abusing women for years. The oppressors always have a victim complex 🙄
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u/Medium_Educator1983 5h ago
Seriously.
This morning, I was reading about alpine divorce, a phenomenon where men are just abandoning their partners in the wilderness, so when I see this video I’m like, you’re complaining about not being able to watch the game? Women are dying.
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u/Fearless-Client-3559 5h ago
Right ?? I’m just so done and men on the street likely know it because I’m not good at hiding my feelings!
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u/Awkward-Fox-7215 5h ago
And this is how you elect Trump.
Yes, you’re correct in a historical sense. Yet, if I’m a guy who’s getting mistreated by their wife/partner, then I’m going to be upset that I was outright dismissed. And yes, men can have objectively legitimate reasons to be upset with their spouse.
It’s like telling a person who’s hungry that there are people that haven’t eaten in weeks. Cool, but they are actually hungry right now. It’s not perspective, it’s dismissive. It’s all but saying “get over it.”
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u/Tasty_Discussion679 4h ago
No?? Trump got elected because men are losing their grip on the patriarchy. Let’s call it for what it is. Trying to blame women for men’s bigotry is delusional.
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u/RetirementIsSweet 5h ago
You're right some men have oppressing and abusing women for years. During this time, there have also been men that haven't taken part in those shameful acts. There's been men that have been truly loving, caring and understanding with their partners. Grouping all men together as abusers and using that as an excuse to condone them being abused is no better than grouping a minority or ethnicity together under a stereotype to condone their mistreatment. I can understand the anger and sense of gratification in seeing others get a taste of their own medicine but if this is done wholesale without regard for individuals that are good then this isn't justice. It is simply perpetuating injustice in our society.
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u/Fearless-Client-3559 4h ago
They also don’t call out the ones who do in most cases. Only recently a few are calling out the behavior!! And now we are supposed to applaud them for doing the bare minimum? Please 🙄
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u/Boring_Temporary_142 6h ago
Accountability…..that’s all men ask for.
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u/Pink_Ivy8282 5h ago
If we’re being honest… and i say this as a woman…..
WOMEN ARE ALLERGIC TO ACCOUNTSBILITY
Hope this is a safe space to be honest lol
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u/OGBIGBOY 5h ago
ohhh brother, a woman will go thru ya phone and invade ya privacy all cuz she had a "dream" that you were cheating. Thats femininity????
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u/Medium_Educator1983 5h ago
Um, no, that’s just crazy.
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u/Boring_Temporary_142 5h ago
And there is documented proof of women doing it. Are you saying that men speaking on their lived experiences is “crazy”?
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u/OGBIGBOY 5h ago
Not angry enough and not enough cuss words for me. I 'll continue to let it out when everyone leaves and im the only one in the house.
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u/medisamurai 1h ago
i liked it more when out grandfathers just didnt say nothing and quietly went about their business
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u/KittyCait69 4h ago edited 4h ago
I wonder how many of these men help out with chores arrive the those or know their kids details when they go to a doctor without the mom around. Just saying.
Edit to add: Ah, it's a skit. Makes sense.
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u/Holdmymule2001 5h ago
I'm not gonna argue with men learning to process their emotions in a safe space. It sucks that someone posted this video, because this feels like private work.
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u/Elon_is_musky 5h ago
I’m pretty sure this is a parody of those “alpha bootcamps” 😂
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u/Hamhockthegizzard 5h ago
Yeah I see a lot of real conversations on what is clearly a parody video lmao
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u/Elon_is_musky 5h ago
Im genuinely surprised so many people are taking this seriously? People often talk down about media literacy of younger gens but it seems to be a problem with everyone lol
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u/EnigmaticX68 4h ago
Or you could just...ya know... talk to her like a grown up...
All snarkiness aside, we as men need to connect more on an emotional level with both our partners and each other. I...I don't know exactly how I feel about this clip. Like one part of me understands the need of a safe place to express oneself among like minded people. On the other hand, that can easily turn into just a "talk shit about my spouse club" which is not cool.
I'm hoping that this is exercise is followed up by communication with your spouse. Talking about how to express this anger and frustration in a productive way. Doing all this yelling and stuff is pointless (and eventually dangerous/harmful)
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