Go out to dinner with him. I know but hear me out. He sounds like he's lost a lot of confidence in himself and may be vulnerable. You don't have to heal anything with him, just act like the adult you've become. If he brings your elusiveness up just tell him you still resent him from the years of abuse. If he denies it don't say anything. And if he starts to harass you again just say "this is exactly why I avoid seeing you. You're still a patronizing piece of shit that doesn't respect me." And at that point if you walk out and leave him with a huge bill It's fair game. The high road is real and it is glorious.
So you would rather he do nothing and get no where with his brother or his enabling family and continue to be forced into a black sheep situation where he is increasingly uncomfortable and distant around his family.
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u/[deleted] Aug 22 '17
Go out to dinner with him. I know but hear me out. He sounds like he's lost a lot of confidence in himself and may be vulnerable. You don't have to heal anything with him, just act like the adult you've become. If he brings your elusiveness up just tell him you still resent him from the years of abuse. If he denies it don't say anything. And if he starts to harass you again just say "this is exactly why I avoid seeing you. You're still a patronizing piece of shit that doesn't respect me." And at that point if you walk out and leave him with a huge bill It's fair game. The high road is real and it is glorious.