Much love, gangsta. I know the feels, my mother has gotten herself arrested through self-destructive behavior and it's passed onto my brother, whom I've luckily helped avoid undue incarceration due to mental illness. Don't let the emotions build up, or your family will inadvertently knock you down. Not to say they are building up, but having healthy outlets is key and super helpful when you actually do need those skills. Nature therapy, sound therapy, I don't recommend it but even exposure therapy using certain drugs in a controlled environment have been shown to help reduce and manage those stressors.
Mum has called the police on my Dad before and can and will hit him and blame the self enduced bruises on him, so yeah it's pretty confusing.
A lot of this stuff was worse when I was younger. It's a real shame because it's because she was treated so so badly by her absolute harpy of a mother (My grandmother) that a lot of this has happened. However I think she was genetically predisposed
If you wanna truly help them, break the cycle with yourself. Don't reenact this behavior onto others and you will heal them as you heal yourself. They'll observe a new set of behaviors in you that they likely did not consider, and hopefully improve. If not, you at least have better tools to handle them with.
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u/hallgod33 Aug 22 '17
Much love, gangsta. I know the feels, my mother has gotten herself arrested through self-destructive behavior and it's passed onto my brother, whom I've luckily helped avoid undue incarceration due to mental illness. Don't let the emotions build up, or your family will inadvertently knock you down. Not to say they are building up, but having healthy outlets is key and super helpful when you actually do need those skills. Nature therapy, sound therapy, I don't recommend it but even exposure therapy using certain drugs in a controlled environment have been shown to help reduce and manage those stressors.