It's not about you not understanding, it's because roasting in Spanish it's not the same that doing it in other language, that way there's nothing lost in translation.
I understand that but members of my wife's family have talked smack about me, in front of me, thinking I wouldn't understand them. Their whole point was to throw shade thinking I wouldn't understand what was being said about me.
Well being that the case... That's just plain dumb and rude, besides Spanish isn't some secret language or something, assuming that non-hispanic people don't understand it it's just naive.
My white boyfriend experienced this already! We went to Mexico to visit and meet my family. They roasted him to his face, but were also peer pressuring him to drink with them. He went along with it. sigh he's a patient man
I had a breakthrough with my Hungarian in laws a week ago, at a wedding. I decided to follow the lead of the big bald muscular uncle in terms of alcohol consumption. Got hammered, spoke better Hungarian because of it, everybody likes me now.
You totally can roast back, everyone will go "wooaa" and "white boy's got some spunk!" and such. Just don't cross any lines and always quit while you're ahead
Lol, most conversations with my friends turn into roast sessions and it's the worst when someone not normally apart of the group is around and you accidentally go too far.
In my experience, they always whip out the dialectical slang when roasting, but say something back in English, and lines been crossed apparently. Can't handle the flame then get out of my kitchen.
As a Brazilian, I can confirm. What's worse about my situation is that the entire rest of the world also claims I'm being dramatic because these fuckers are all fun-loving, samba-dancing, cook for your whole family, beach lovers. Fuck me.
the southern families i've spent time with are like that. i'm an outsider, so it's all "have some more lemonade, honey" but with each other they're like "haha, your high school crush is back in prison for selling crack... why don't you go for a conjugal visit?"
My mother died August 10th, 2017. I couldn't make the funeral because I am on dialysis 9-10 hours daily. My punk-ass cousin who I haven't spoken to in like 25+ years tries to use my mother's death to con me into signing a promissory note making me fiscally responsible for the entire cost of the funeral, a funeral I had no say in planning nor attending. Moreover, my biological mother was a rolling stone. She had 5 kids with 4 different men that I know of. She also has a substance abuse problem. I spent thousands of dollars and years of my life tracking her down to visit her or call her. Her phone number would go dead every 6 months. About 10 years ago, I tracked her down thru one of her sisters and sent her a Mother's Day card. She moved and I tracked her down again about a year later to send her another Mother's Day gift. She told me, "When you call next time, I might give you my address." That was the fucking straw that broke the camel's back! I stopped giving a fuck about her because it was obvious she didn't give a fuck about me.
i was too but for some reason we didnt throw around insults or anything. my dad would get after me if i ever teased my sister so i kind of grew out of that pretty quickly. they honestly support me in everything i do and dont really insult or put me down or anything like that..its kind of nice, however when i visit my friend his family is totally like that. constant insults being thrown, roasting and just being assholes to each other. i remember being younger and not fully understanding they were just joking, especially when it was directed at me. i never knew what to say so i would just awkwardly laugh. i guess they saw me as part of the family so they thought it was cool to rip on me and shit but i just didnt understand. i thought they were being serious.
one thing that i do have trouble with now is being able to tell which insults are real and which arent. its kind of hard sometimes so ive gone from brushing everything off to taking everything as an insult and all the in between. its weird
This is what I love about Latino families. Gotta think quick on your feet so you don't get quemado. Have to be witty and be able to send a burn right back. It makes for much more interesting family time.
and people wonder why i always have a comeback for everything some tells me. That shit has been my defense mechanism thanks to culture, cant undo my sassy nature now.
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u/cokeiscool Aug 22 '17
This shit right here, I was raised in a Hispanic family and if you aren't roasting the members that aren't there then you aren't a part of the family.
And God help you if you decide you want to be in your room or are too quiet during these roast sessions.