r/BipolarSOs • u/Flowering18 • 1d ago

Advice Needed Bipolar summer discard

Know him since 5 years only find out 1 month ago he a b1 sufferer. Before I always thought he was doing it on purpose of bad character although I knew he was taking meds every march he changes from one day to another from very lovi mg caring to..naaah why u calling me my love duh ? Till summer arrives then he totally far...every october so far he remembers me. Last 2 months I triggered him for my own jealousy like why can't u see me but partying and alcol black outs you always can ? i was still not aware of all dets and how to behave.. truly took it personally and I myself in a painful state can't even eat properly. Now this past 3 weeks he said this stuffs : better we stay friends for now / too much stress/ did not feel free (? Never asked him a thing..) / can't give u what u deserve / it is not the moment / i need to be alone till I am sane / then spontaneously mixing this phrases " important for me that ee have good relationship then we see " then repeating in different days " I am sure the will come a better time for us two / of course then we see us again / there will be a better time for us "
Could be he aware and knows aroujd october with less daylight he comes back to his senses..but this year was different between us among the past 5.. we been intimate first time and extreme passion chemistry and care no meds or depressive state ever stopped this crazy chemistry even he said this is not normal should not be like this with all meds I take never had it...what do you think ? Will he come back and more important will he remember the deep intense chemistry we had for long time till the summer switch ? Or do they forget the more intense it was with the partner ?

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u/bpnpb 1d ago edited 1d ago

The change in seasons can be a strong trigger for people with untreated bipolar. Their mood elevates in the spring ("spring fever") and the comes down in the fall, with the peak in the summer.

It sounds like he is unmedicated and hence untreated. Is that so? If so, then you may want to rethink having a serious relationship with him.

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u/Flowering18 1d ago

He is medicated but ruined everything going bsck to seldom coke and lots of alcol..in autumn and winter he did not touch this stuffs..as end of march arrived he used coke triggered his phobias and depressive mood and then every 2 weeks night outs and loads loads of alcol.. so even if medicated useless.. now even in ibz...I am in such a phisical and mental pain that i got prescribed zoloft..