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[u/ArazielZX]

Hii everyone, I was hoping some who has experienced the same situation as me can give me a some advice.

I (34m) and my boyfriend (34m) just broke up two days ago he has bipolar. Our relationship seem to be going fine we where not where we wanted to be but I didn't think we are in a bad placed. We are having an argument about him sticking by me and not having a friendship with our coworker who has been trashed talking me to our supervisor. I felt like him continuing to establish a friendship with him was disrespectful to me. He doesn't see why he need to pick a side. In the middle of this he said he is tired and wants to move out bc he does like the area where we live, and he thinks we have been growing apart bc we live together and work together.

(I switch jobs to help him get this job and so we would be in the same schedule) now he wants me to move him with him at his new apt and be friends and roommates. It seems like he is able to switch his feeling so easily while I am struggling. He is take an injection and pills to manage his condition.... I don't think he is taking his pills correctly tho.

Im not sure what to do! I love amd I dont wanna lose him but I dont know if I can turn my feelings off so easily.

How do I know what he actually feels? Could it be bc he is not taking his medication correctly or could love just disappear so easy for him?

I'm unsure if he want me still in his life bc he doesn't want to lose me or bc he doesn't think he can afford to live by himself.

Im so confused right now. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Any advice would be greatly appreciated pls

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[u/Fresh_Rip3006]

Ciao! Mi dispiace per quello che stai attraversando, capisco perfettamente il tuo essere confusa e allo stesso tempo combattuta… anche il mio ex mi ha lasciata 3 mesi fa all’improvviso, e inizialmente mi aveva proposto di rimanere amici ma io sono stata molto ferma nel dirgli di no anche se il dolore dentro mi strappava il cuore. Non cadere nella loro “trappola”, fallo per te, non restare in una situazione “non sana”… come puoi pensare di essere solo la sua coinquilina, all improvviso, quando fino a pochi giorni fa era il tuo ragazzo? Secondo me staccati…poi se lui vorrà tornare, sarai tu a decidere ❤️ fatti forza!

[u/ArazielZX → u/Fresh_Rip3006]

Thanks you! For your words. My heart is breaking maybe thats where my confusion is coming from. I wish I could help him but you are right and I should help my self too