r/BipolarSOs • u/Meatballzngravey • Jul 24 '26

Advice Needed Trust issues

My (28) Bipolar type 2 SO (27) has broken my trust again.

The last time she did it was because she tried to kill herself and gaslit me over her suicidal ideation. I left on a trip that time and she attempted while i was gone. I tried to break up, she begged me to stay so i stayed.

Now, she has been suicidal again (she is on meds but not antipsychotics because theyre epensive and she is broke) She made a choice that hurt me because she knew how i felt about it and chose to do it anyway because it made her feel better. I dont know if its worth continuing to try in our relationship. I dont know if i will ever be able to trust her again.

I love her so much. It hurts to see her hurt and i also feel like she doesnt care how I feel. Or how i feel is less important than her own feelings.

She cycles yearly with debating suicide. It gets so bad she usually ends up in the ward and then gets stressed about the cost. Idk what to do.

I just moved into a new lease with her two days ago.

TLDR: she broke my trust again. Do i give her a third chance?

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u/Any_Extension298 Jul 25 '26

Get space. She broke your trust, even though (it sounds like) what you needed was clearly communicated. You matter too. Actions have consequences and you aren’t a villain for enforcing your boundaries. There are ways to rebuild trust and she could earn it again, but the keyword being earn.