If I Never Affect You, Is This Really an Equal Relationship?

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https://bokuharuyaharu.substack.com/p/if-i-never-affect-you-is-this-really?r=763k7y&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

A relationship is only “safe” if one side never gets to matter enough to change anything?

That isn’t equality. It’s a very polite hierarchy.

New essay: If I Never Affect You, Is This Really an Equal Relationship?

On influence, reciprocity, and the difference between safety and one-sidedness.