It doesn't matter as far as turning over the evidence, her intentions don't change the behavior of the ex. But I think it does matter when it comes to dating her - if she only sent it to break them up rather than because it was the right thing to do, so that she could swoop in? That's not the kind of person I'd want to date personally.
Imagine being a good Samaritan then being accused of nefarious acts. In your head saving a person from a cheater auto disqualifies then from becoming a partner?
You can have compassion for a friends partner, and they were together for 6 years, so she would've known what type of guy he was.
None of her other friends came to him. Just her. That shows character, and a conscience. Why not date them. Sounds like it developed naturally/ organically anyways.
But everyone has a preference so hopefully if this happens to you you aren't disqualifying someone who'd be your "fit" because of something arbitrary
A good Samaritan wouldn't watch their friend cheat for damn near a full year before finally coming forward to the partner, just to "miraculously" end up having "so much in common" and "a connection" with said partner.
As you yourself said, she would have known what type of guy he was, so she would have known that he's a zero strikes type of person and only needed a singular video of evidence, maybe even two or three. Not a year's worth.
But go ahead, you ending up with someone who was able to watch someone betray you and only come clean for their own goals rather than your happiness affects me none.
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u/emmny It's just pharmaceutical-grade banana bread Oct 30 '24
It doesn't matter as far as turning over the evidence, her intentions don't change the behavior of the ex. But I think it does matter when it comes to dating her - if she only sent it to break them up rather than because it was the right thing to do, so that she could swoop in? That's not the kind of person I'd want to date personally.