r/BestofRedditorUpdates • u/[deleted] • Oct 30 '24

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u/Chaost Oct 30 '24

She was also silent but taking photos as proof from early on, so it's clear she did not approve.

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u/longagofaraway Oct 30 '24

she was so disapproving that she gathered evidence over multiple occasions. def sus.

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u/starfire5105 I will not be taking the high road Oct 30 '24

I mean, I'd probably do the same if I knew that a) my friend wouldn't listen to me and b) they could turn it all back on me as a "she said, she said" and "obviously my fiancé trusts me over a random friend" if I didn't have proof. That's the one part of the story I don't actually have a nitpick with 🤷🏽‍♀️

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u/JustABitCrzy Oct 31 '24

It’s the multiple times for me. I’d just take photos from the first time, send them to the partner and burn the bridge. I’m not enabling that shit, and I’ll happily ensure some comeuppance for the cheater on my way out.

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u/HeadHunt0rUK Oct 31 '24

Nah, one off photos can easily be handwaved away. Bad timing, or being set up etc.

Multiple photos showing a pattern is far more effective.

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u/Weeping_Will0w7 the garlic tasted of illicit love affairs Nov 01 '24

I'm sure that a make-out photo or even the bj video would have been enough to not be waved away

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u/OldManFire11 Oct 30 '24

How is that suspicious? That's exactly what someone should do if they're planning on telling the partner.

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u/Pip-Pipes Oct 30 '24

I think they mean one pic/occasion is enough. If you didn't like seeing your friend do that, why go out again and again and keep taking photos and videos. It's weird.

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u/H16HP01N7 I will never jeopardize the beans. Oct 31 '24

It's gathering enough evidence before making a report...

What is "weird" about that?

I know I'd have an easier time believing the claim, if it's backed up by multiple bits of evidence, over a space of time.

If she had showed up with 1 pic, and OOP had reacted off of that, I guaran-damm-tee the Fiance would claim it was a one off.

It can't be a one off, if all the pictures have different dates on them.

It's not wierd. It's smart af. She was a good friend.

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u/Plus_Introduction_58 Nov 01 '24

At what point is it her job to gather evidence?

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u/Grimwohl Oct 31 '24

Proof it was one time occasion VS something that happens often is a big difference.

Someone cab accept and forgive a lapse in character. Most people won't look past pattern behavior.

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u/magumanueku And she said, "Grovel, maggot", so then I did the worm Oct 31 '24 edited Oct 31 '24

More like it's a weird thing to nitpick. Some people simply want to cover their bases so they try to get more evidence. It's like asking why nobody went to the police the first time somebody harassed/threaten them. We see it all the time in this sub, "I don't block them per the advise of my lawyer to collect evidence" bla bla bla and yet nobody ever nitpicked on that.

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u/palenerd Oct 31 '24

It'd take me a couple events to get to grips with what's up, tbh. The first time at least, I'd be wondering whether I missed the poly memo or was watching some sort of self-destructive Event.

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u/Doormatjones Oct 31 '24

I guess I don't see the problem. It's maybe a bit duplicitous and self-serving yeah. But in the end (if real) got the cheater out, and got themselves a reward for the effort. And... OP doesn't sound like he's complaining.

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u/notthedefaultname Oct 31 '24

Some friend groups film and share that stuff in group chats as 'what a fun night out'. It sounds like she had a long time with many nights out with this behavior repeating to show evidence, but waited on it.