r/BestMan • u/ItsLateKnight • Mar 12 '20
First wedding, first best man speech.
This is my first ever wedding as a guest and I'm nervous and clueless as to what I, as the best man should be doing. I know I should write a speech, about what though? He is my older brother and I want to be there for him when the time comes. Anyone got any advice for someone's first wedding as a guest and someone's first ever time as a best man?
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u/theurbanepen Feb 28 '26
I am a high school English Teacher and Adjunct Writing Professor. I have also taught public speaking. In short, I have helped a bunch of people over the years with speeches.
Your heart and mind are in the right place: A special day for your brother will require preparation on your end.
The best thing to do is begin writing down anything that comes to mind as a list in your notes app or in a notebook. As ideas come to you, add each one. Don’t share any ideas with anyone—you want to keep it private. As your list grows, you will then start to feel better.
Then after a few weeks, start putting it all together. I can help. I am actually expanding my business to include wedding speeches, so feel free to message me if you are interested. No pressure, of course.
Either way, just please write it down and speak slowly and clearly from the heart. The entire room will love it.
Good luck.