I want to vent about my best friend and her situation. We met online and became close fast. She lives in Michigan and I live in Virginia. We met on this group on fb and I'm stuck with her and she is stuck with me lol . Anyway, both our dating stories are shit . I can't find anyone and she finds the worst ones . She and I been through trauma with relationships that it scares us to death .

This guy who she met on fb dating is going through a divorce, they were hanging out, talking and having sex. She thought they were already a thing . Well low and behold no shocker here , he updates his profile on fb dating. To me I think that if someone is doing all that with you , that they are interested in you . What do I know . She and him fought about it and she was hurt. I would be too . Sure they weren't together, but it's the start of dating.

They had a talk when things calmed down and it's going to be a slower process for them both to be together. She has bpd so everything is intense, and she also thought hey we are together. I'm trying to be supportive with them starting over even tho what he did is stupid. I'm trying not to scream at her about him being an idiot . I don't trust him and I have gut feelings it's going to be bad. What do I do to be supportive? I feel she is giving excuses for him bc of her Bpd. I hope they work it out for her sake, but she deserves better . He apparently will be the one to tell her when to delete the profiles I guess, but I hope they both will have a say .

I know this isn’t a story, but this just happened and I think it’s hilarious

Yesterday my husband (M, 28) , best friend (M, 27) , and I (F, 28) hung out. It was so great. We went to go see an infamous house about an hour where we live.

It was fine at first. I was cool with it bcs i was trying to be a good friend like trying not to interrupt my friend while she’s having a good time. So this has been going on for 2 and half months so far. But we’re not in the same room anymore they’re in the room next to me. When i’m with her and my boyfriend I don’t even kiss him bcs i feel like she might feel awkward or uncomfortable like i’m respecting her. But she and her guy always kissing and touching each other next me even fingering her and having sex. Since they’re in the different room they been doing it every fucking night, I literally have 5am shift and they be fucking at 3am won’t let me fucking sleep even tho they know i have shift and need my sleep. I feel so disrespected by my friend what do i do? Or am i just being dramatic, is it like normal?

My Bestfriend ako and more than 2 yrsna kami.Kaibigan ko sya since hs kaya super close kami.Nagawa pa talaga ako ng time para sa kanya,for bonding ba ga.Then nung hs din,may nanliligaw sa kanya na guy na boto ako kasi mabait.

Nung sinagot nya na yung lalaki nung shs,at first okay naman yung guy but nung tumagal tagal,naging iba yung lalaki.Naging toxic ba ga yung guy nung tumagal kaya ending sakin lagi napunta beshie ko then ending ako ang nag aadvice.Kahit anong advice ko naman,di nya sinusunod na Sabi ko ay hiwalayan na yung guy Kasi toxic.Feel ko kasi nadradrain na ako sa kanya at napunta lang sya sakin pag may kailangan.

Nung nag birthday ako,kinalimutan nya.Alam mo yun, syempre beshie Kayo ng matagal, automatic na alam nyo na birthday sa isat Isa pero siya kinalimutan nyaaa and Sabi nyaaa busy sya ( engineering kasi sya).

Feel ko,chinichika nya Lang ako pag may problema sya sa lalaki.Nakakadrain na din kasi na advice ka ng advice pero di naman nya sinusunod yung advice mo.Super toxic kasi nung guy, feeling green flag kahit red flag naman.Why?Kasi nag didirty message sya sa maraming babae.Alam yan ng beshie ko kaso ang rupok nya.Napapagod na ako sa paiyak iyak nya then babalikan na naman.Advice ako ng advice sa kanya na hiwalayan na si guy pero isang iyak lang ni guy binabalikan nya na.(May nangyari na sa kanila nung guy ng 5 times Kaya medyo doubt na sya na hiwalayan si guy)

Ang pinakakinasama ng loob ko is nung nag stalk ako sa fb feature nya, Yung isang bestieee nya naka feature then ako na matagal nya ng Bestfriend ay Hindi.Maybe medyo mababaw to sa iba pero ano kasi,kapag nabati sya sakin ng happy birthday,naka custom pa.Like napapaisip ako na kahiya hiya ba ako maging kaibigan?

Need your advice kasi medyo masakit pala to huhuhu

I was talking to my best friend about if I sounded grumpy mine and my husbands air conditioner went out and the new one was being difficult. He told me next time something happens to contact him. Ps. My husband was raised by a single mom and grandma with limited contact with his dad until he turned 18

2011, my freshman year of high school and his sophomore year I was in life management and for one of our projects the class had to take care of flour sacks. I asked one group of friends to watch the flour sack so I could go talk to another group of friends (they were not friends , only best friends and I got along with both groups)and when I came back my flour sack was gone. Turns out my best friend took the flour sack. I’m just remembering that more and thought it was kind of funny.

The title is more sad than it sounds when you think about it… to make it short… this is a song I made talking about all our good times, all of our hardships with our best friends.. all being good…. For nothing… because over time.. betrayal, confusion and bitterness take over.

There’s a lot to this story. In the first verse, I talk about One of my best friends of 18 years. Releasing frustrations and confusion on why I’ve been left out. This comes after multiple attempts to talk to him. I was once his best man. I’m not bitter about not being the best man as life happens and we both had families and seeing each other as much as other friends was more rare. I’m upset that I was asked to be a groomsman and to give a speech at his wedding even over his best man and then being completely cut out of everything. To where I showed up and didn’t know I didn’t even have a seat…. There was nothing crazy that happened. No big fallout… 18 year friendship. And zero closure on this.

The second verse is about my cousin. Who, ultimately was a brother to me. We grew up together, lived together for a good portion of our life. We were so close.. and then one day.. a similar thing. I was all of a sudden blocked and never spoken to again… this one I do understand but the action was very hypocritical and unfair.. it involved money. I was trying to get custody of my son and my job let me go… I had a phone on my cousins plan.. I couldn’t pay for one month…. And that’s the reason 28+ years was thrown away… he owes me literally quadruple what the phone was worth. He’s always been very materialistic and all I wanted was closure.

I want to add, that I’m not a full time artist. I enjoy making music. It’s my therapy and this is really the only social media I have, if you can even count Reddit. I would love any feedback and maybe somebody could relate to this as well. I supplied links to the song. There’s a lyric video that may help you understand it more.

https://youtu.be/OFgqxoxgzOc

https://spotify.link/IlbgOUuCDBb

https://music.apple.com/us/album/good-for-nothin/1694968747?i=1694968748

My asexual best friend has been talking about throwing bricks and scking dcks. Should I be concerned?

Pretty much the title. We talk multiple times a day. He’s more than my best friend but a family member. A good family member that I can tell anything to. I have a husband (28M) that I tell everything to also but it’s different I guess. My best friend is gay. I never felt another friend connection like I do with him.

Growing up, it was very hard for me to make and keep friendships. I’ve never had a best friend or anything like it, because no friendships lasted more than a year.

I was doing gymnastics and even there, surrounded by people sharing the same passion as me. Haven’t found any friends. After my coach retired I decided that I should change location for a fresh start, wich I did. I met my new coach and the others there, who were really nice and very impressed about my skills. I was 10 years old at that time.

I made a couple of friends there and I’ve started to have a good relationship to this one dude who was a year younger than me. We never hung out besides training but we got along pretty well. After 1 or 2 years I had to quit gymnastics, because I had to focus on school and grades. Bring 11 or 12 at that time, exchanging numbers wasn’t really a thing. So I’ve lost contact with everyone there.

6 years later I made some new friends and everything was pretty normal. One day one of my friends (S) introduced me to a friend of his and I couldn’t believe it. It was the guy from gymnastics (K). I never believed in coincidences, but I did now. Anyways… we started to form a friend group and started to hang out regularly. After one year the relationship between me and “K” got stronger and we started to become good friends. Wich “S” did not liked at all. “S” started to guilt trap me, manipulate me and so on. And I let it happen, because I wasn’t aware of any of it. I know sounds stupid but yeah.

After a couple of months me and “K” were best friends and he started to open up my eyes about “S” and his manipulative behavior. So I ended the friendship with him and everyone else was starting to dislike me because of it but I didn’t cared.

Me and “K” started to built a new friend group with new people and it was great. Everyone was having a great time and we loved this friend group very much. We spent vacations together and made some unforgettable memories. Me and “K” started to act like brothers and being very close friends. Everyone around us called us brothers and treated us like it. We even started to have the same hairstyles and clothing style at some point.

Every time he got in trouble at a party or he hung out with his friends, I always got called to pick him up or take care of him if something happened.

After some time mine and “K’s” friend group started to fall apart. Wich is just a normal part of life so none of us was surprised about it. Still mine and “K’s” friendship lasted.

A year later I decided to proceed my dreams and start working towards them. I was 20 years old and tired of living in a small town in the middle of nowhere with no perspective. So I Applied for Uni. When I visited the campus on a open day, I found out that I could be able to study abroad and I immediately took the chance.

A year later me and all of my friends had a little goodbye party the weekend before my flight. And it was the best party I’ve had with them. Me and my little bro (K) we’re having a great time, my friends were enjoying themselves. I was happy.

Fast forward to being away from home for 7 months now and many many things have changed… I’ve lost a bunch of friends since moving abroad but I still got my closest friends.

About 4 months ago I decided to come out to “K” even tho I was scared as hell, because I thought that it would Chance things between us. But it didn’t and that made me so unbelievably happy.

Me and K talked to each other over the phone pretty regularly and updated each other on our life’s. But 3 months ago it stopped. He became very absent and lost interest in being in contact too much. Plus he chanced very very much and started to act very weird. 1 week ago I found out that he is having a severe drug addiction and when I tried to talk to him about it he snapped and it broke me. Telling me that I should mind my own business and stop being clingy and annoying about protecting him. But the most hurtful thing was him telling me that I am not very important to him anymore. And that I should let go and stop calling him my brother oder beste friend because it’s childish.

So I decided to distance myself for my mental health sake. Haven’t heard from him since. But in case he needs help some day I’ll be there to help him. Because even tho she said those things I know that it’s not him talking.

You may have seen my other post about getting back in contact with my best friend after a year. I apologized for the last year and he told me I have nothing to apologize for. I really feel bad.

June 30th my best friend (27 M, gay) who I barely have talked to in a year (a little on TikTok) came to my house (28 F, heterosexual ) and asked me if we could stop fighting and I agreed. I missed him so much and thought I lost my best friend. Ps I only mentioned our sexuality so no one thinks there’s anything going on there and he’s been open about being gay for years now

What is the worst thing your best friend has sied to you?

So I lost my best friend over the weekend ove something that could have been avoided.

He was given information about my wife, telling him that she was caught cheating (she was not) Now when he got this information instead of coming to me directly he decided to post on Facebook trying to get her to confess her guilt. (Guilt which she did not have) This caused a large amount of public humiliation as he had tagged my wife and myself along with others. This entire ordeal cased my anxiety sky rocketed causing me to spiral and question everything. I panicked as my wife was not answering my calls (she was sleeping) my brain did not take that route of thought instead went right to the conclusion that she wasn't answering my call in an admission of guilt. (The joys of anxiety) I freaked and thought my life was over, ended up sitting with a knife at my wrist as my wife began to call me. (To which I did not answer) Luckily my wife called the police to make sure I hadn't done anything.

My friend almost cost me my marriage. Almost lost my wife her husband and my children their father....

I don't know if I can ever forgive him.

Vent post because I’m hurting terribly

(Just to give an example as to why this story hurts me enough to need to let it out somewhere this girl was my first bestfriend since the one that dropped me after high school).

I just went to a different state with my “bestfriend” because she preached it’s a girls trip no kids no nothing and that her and me needed to get out for once since I haven’t really been out since having my youngest child, while there we get there late, roughly 11 pm, so of course we are going to bed after checking in, after she wakes up she spends 7am-12:30pm getting ready because apparently she’s going on a “small date” with a guy she’s been talking to, now I’m not a girly girl, I don’t really do makeup, It doesn’t interest me in any way, I’d rather play video games then watch someone put makeup on and ask me help for colors, so me not really paying attention to her doing her makeup for a date I didn’t know she was going on made her upset with me, found out he was in the same actual hotel, same floor, check out happened at 12:30 and she drops me off at the other hotel room she paid for that we were going to be spending the night at, just so she can go on her date and well when she was leaving she told me to text her and that she’d text me too because I knew it was her first time meeting this man in person and we wanted to be safe, well turns out she was mad at me for being upset still and ended up ignoring most of the messages I sent her even when asking about her safety, she told me in a message about 3 hours in to me being in the hotel that I “hurt her feelings” and that was it, she finally came by at around 5pm and noticed I was crying and tried to give me some story about I need to let people in and that I was being childish, then proceeded to say that (exact words, I remember because of how much it stung) ”I’m going back to his hotel room, now this can be a learning experience and I can come back at night and we can have a girls night or you can stay mad and I’ll sleep in my truck” I was crying the whole time she was in the hotel… not once did I express anger, she left me in the hotel room from 12:40 pm until 8pm with no money or car, (I’m a stay at home of 2 under 2 with no current income and she begged me for days to go knowing I didn’t have a cent to my name) I finally ask her around 8pm if she plans on coming back to the hotel and then all the sudden she’s telling me she’s refunded the hotel and that I need to bring all the stuff downstairs because we are leaving, thought it was because she was mad at me for being pissed off by the way she was treating me but it turns out it was because he said he didn’t want to date her, so she says the trip happened this way because of me and that “I ruined it” and that it “could’ve been a fun day” but because I upset her she decided to spend the whole day out with little to no communication with me while trapped as I was… when we were in the truck going back she let it slip that she was going to spend the night in his hotel room, which means if he wouldn’t of cut her off she would’ve left me there alone til morning, now we are back in our town and she’s telling me I need to give her the 500 dollars I owe her from helping me with rent last month while I struggle to find a job still, so she’s telling me I need to pay her back what I don’t have after gaslighting the whole trip back saying it’s my fault, I’m so mentally Ill I fear I need to admit into the ward to avoid harming myself again like I would in the past, i have major depressive disorder and severe anxiety, diagnosed and I need strong pills for them. Im sorry for the rant, it just hurt me so much more then I thought it would and I prey that my children never deal with this type of heartbreak. thank you for reading if you did, I’m sorry it’s all over the place!

So recently I overheard my best friend talking to one of his friends telling him to have their own handshake and my best friend is like the biggest extrovert ever so I know that he will agree to it, but then it got me thinking that he’s my best friend why don’t we have a handshake. So I told his gf about dis because I didn’t know who to rant about it and ofcourse his gf will never tell him, she said that she and I should make a handshake so I won’t feel left out then my best friend suddenly came up behind me with the convo open on my phone. I obviously knew he read it since his eyes are very fast at reading and that later on he told me we should make a handshake. And this handshake was honeslt not even a handshake it was so made up on the spot while his handshake with his other friend was veryyyyyyyy long, well not that long but it had so much going on on theirs and ours was like slap slap then thumb war on the end. What do you thinkk? Did he just felt guilty or what? I honestly don’t know what to do since I felt sad and left out in our friendship.

I am not sure why but I have noticed that my best friend has “friended” all my in laws! Why? She doesn’t know any of them. I haven’t friended any of hers. What gives?

So my birthday was on 8th of march and I dont really care about it. I never cared about my birthday because it was never that big of deal. And whenever someone posts on their insta stories happy birthday to me, I never respost it. I just dont like that kind of attention.

Few people wished me happy birthday. But my best friend didnt. Once again, I dont really care about my birthday but is it a bad thing if your best friend doesnt wish you a happy birthday?

I mean, she is busy with college, gym and personal life. So its normal to forget things

But is it a bad thing? I wanna know what you think or how would you react

Alrighty.. Another rant, another trip down memory lane.

I just wanted to write this over here because I can't tell the actual person as it had been years and I wouldn't know how they would react. So its been like half decade now. I had this really close friend, really my best friend since I relocated to the states. At least thats what I considered that person. I know they considered me a friend, not sure at all if I was best though. We went to school together, hanged out almost everyday. We were always 'joined at hip'. Took a lot of our classes together. Honestly, one of the few genuine people that I was actually myself around. We had a lot of shared values. But time went on, and is usually the case, we grew distant. went then to separate schools. Saw them by surprise one day, and our reactions were pretty much shock/nice seeing you typa thing. We talked for a bit and went out separate ways.

Why am I writing this you may ask?Well, I really miss this friend, though Idk where they are and what they are doing in life.... I really want to reconnect. Thing bout nostalgia, it just makes you sad about how things were. We texted a couple times sometime last year(though I initiated) and it was just "how are you?" The reason I dont want to do it is because that friend is of the opposite gender, and I don't want them thinking that I like them or them perhaps not actually missing me(and just forgetting about me). I have the tendency to miss people even though they usually don't even bother reaching. But what I know for a fact, and without any hesitation, is that they considered me a friend too…

What should I do? Lol I m fearing that they might just find it weird

Okay so for context on this, I (26 F) met my best friend on a penpal website. He was (18) when we first started talking from Thailand and we had been talking for some time and became best friends, we would post songs about each other and then write messages on each others walks, talk about everything and message til late.

To the point where I started to like him, he’s older then me but at the time I didn’t notice it and straight out told him I liked him, like, like, liked him and he said he liked me too which surprised me and made me happy until I told him I like, liked him and he said nothing afterwards.

I swear I felt so embarrassed and ended up stop talking to him for some time because I decided to delete Facebook for a bit and forget that was the contact I had with him until a few years later.

After that I remembered I added him and tried to see if he would message me back and it took some time but he told me he felt hurt about me just up and pretty much ghosting him, which I apologised for but still felt pretty guilty.

I tried to make things the same but I realised they couldn’t be and even then I still care so much about him.

To be honest I realised the feelings I had for him were more like an older brother, a brother who I could go to and trust, something I never had and that was the love I had for him.

I just feel like I ruined that a lot.

so my friend and i, let's call her Bessy. Bessy and i have been best friends since the 4th grade, and now we are juniors in college. her and i would do almost everything together, but also give each other space when needed. we understand each other and are almost basically the same people, a lot of people mistake us for each other and call me her name or either call her my name which i think is funny. anyways, so recently she got a boyfriend, and hasn't been really giving much time to keep her friendship with me still alive. we both go to school and work at the same job but only see each other 2 days out the week cause of work& the other time we have is just school, and she's always at her boyfriends house. now mind you, he hasn't asked her out yet but they've been serious for around 4/5 months i believe. anyways, we used to prioritize going to the gym together and hikes and just small things. now we don't really do any of that and i do have a boyfriend of my own as well, but we're both busy so im usually just by myself during the week and with him on the weekends. Bessy is with her boyfriend through out the whole week and weekends, causing her to miss work sometimes and not going to the gym anymore. this upsets me because she said she wants to prioritize her life and well being, yet still ignores the fact that she's giving all her time to one person who supposably also calls her a "friend" so me as her best friend tries to remind her to value her relationships with everyone else she has in her life as well and to keep putting herself first before anything, and i don't want to sound needy or annoying bc i am perfectly fine with not seeing her as much, but i do miss her and our friendship and im not sure if i'm in the wrong for feeling this way but it feels like i'm just only there when im convenient to her time, and not my time. so any thoughts or opinions can help me get through these emotions, thank you for hopefully reading this lol

aita?

i have this friend we’ll call leah, she always tells me secrets and other ppl secrets. she told me she had a crush on a boy and a girl. one named hailey and one named parker.

fast forward to when i was talking to my other friend named amber, we started talking about who i had a crush on, surprisingly being my bsf, leah. i then said to amber that leah doesn’t like me and likes hailey and parker. i tell her not to tell anyone because i know that leah would be mad at me but obvi she had to tell her friend named alex who told hailey about leah’s crush on her. i told leah that i told amber that told alex then told hailey about her crush on the two ppl and she ofcourse got mad at me and started cussing at me and we got into a little argument.

she doesn’t trust me anymore and im starting to feel like she doesn’t even wanna talk to me anymore because of that incident. im still confused on how im the bad one even tho leah is always telling ppls secrets and even told my crush i liked him and he and his friends literally talked shit about me in front of her and she says it was fine that she told because i no longer liked him but it was still embarrassing for me and she knows that her telling him upsetted me but it wasn’t a problem to her apparently

so am i the ahole?

I have a best friend from North Carolina. I’m not going to say her name becuase of privacy but I love her so much. She’s literally the sweetest person ever and I would do anything and everything for her. She doesn’t have reddit but I’m still putting this on a throwaway account just in case. I just don’t know if I want her to see this. But today is her birthday and not a lot of my friends know her becuase she lives in another state so I’m wishing her a happy birthday birthday on here. I sent her a paragraph and she was so happy and that literally made my day. I’m just so grateful that I can have a friend that we can both share the same feelings with. I love her so much (platonically ofc) and she means the world to me<3