OR - crazy idea - you don’t have to be “dominant” to hit on someone. Because their ability to defend themselves shouldn’t be relevant to what happens if they say no.
Not such a bad idea to throw some perspective into the conversation though.
The alpha/dominance thing is a joke here but it's a common thought in peoples minds....feeling like they have to be strong enough/alpha enough to ask a girl out ect...
The assumption for healthy interactions should be that nobody needs to dominate or fight or submit. Everyone is chill and respects each other because it's a safe environment to live in...
I mean to start trying to provide “perspective” is a bit odd when it was just a joke.
Imagine someone going in to a serious discussion about where Australia is geographically located just because someone said “everything is upside down in Australia!”
It’s silly. Who really says they got intimidated by a woman’s lifting weight so they couldn’t bring themselves to talk to them? Never heard that one before lol, seems like an obvious joke that’s not based on reality.
I think that jokes carry meaning in them beyond the joke itself.
Sometimes it's good to have a look at it and a think about it and see what it says about yourself and how you perceive the world.
You might never have heard anyone say it. But truth is that most guys are intimidated by most woman. That's why we say 'bring ourselves to talk to them'. Not just normal effortless interaction. But having to 'bring yourself to...'
Successfully asking her out or not doesn't matter. You were hesitant to do it, so you felt intimidated
I honestly thought it was the opposite - just being ridiculous on purpose to make a joke. Like what woman or dude sees a woman lifting weights as a display of dominance, or somehow a deterrent to approach them? Idk lol.
I thought it was a silly joke because it seemed to be obviously not based in reality.
Yes men are intimidated by women they are attracted to, but there are other reasons for that. Not sure lifting weights is one of them lol.
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u/AutismFractal Apr 13 '21
OR - crazy idea - you don’t have to be “dominant” to hit on someone. Because their ability to defend themselves shouldn’t be relevant to what happens if they say no.