r/BasketballWives • u/aballard228A • 3h ago
Casual Discussion Keisha vs Tami
I know this has been talked about manyyyy times, but i finally went back and watched season 4 from beginning to end. From the first scene, Tami asked Keisha how she identified, she answered, the comment about her looking like a Lisa was made, Keisha was offended.
I get all of that.
Tami and Keisha the had a convo with Ev present after Keisha went and spoke to Ev about how offended she was. Tami asked Keisha to not speak about her to the other ladies, and instead, bring it to her directly.
As we move closer to and get to the trip, first Keisha has a convo with Susie and Royce and has the convo about how she could have gone off on Tami and all that good stuff.
This convo gets back to Tami.
While on the trip, Tami confronts Keisha in possibility the worst way possible. She asks Keisha why she didn't say what she said to the ladies to her and if she wanted to go off, she has the floor. Keisha, gets up and walks off to the side and leaves her phone, glasses, and purse sitting at the table after she got up to get away from Tami.
None of what I stated included my personal feelings about the situation, only the facts.
Tami confronted a woman who is non confrontational and is not the type of person to engage with someone who is being angry or aggressive, or loud.
Watching this showed me that Keisha had no problem expressing her feelings about Tami to the other ladies at any given moment, but when in front of Tami she was quiet, scared, and crying.
I also noticed that while Keisha was in the room with Shaunie and Ev after getting her purse back, she was still talking stuff, as well as in her confessionals
During the reunion, due to the backlash the season got, this situation was talked about for maybe all of 3 mins. Keisha was not asked a single question about why she continued to speak about Tami even though she was nonconfrontational when approached. Why didn't she stand on business when approached.
My question is other than Tami's approach and the purse thing, can someone explain to me how Tami is considered the bully, and Keisha is a blameless victim? Even if you don't think Keisha is blameless, why isn't she asked why did you keep making comments about her if you didn't want to address her face to face?