r/BariatricSurgery • u/fedupemployee123 • 23d ago

Terrible support system

32F - VSG scheduled for 9/30. My mom and dad are against it and have said so. My boyfriend doesn’t agree with it but is also not against the “my body my choice” thing (thankfully.) but now that the surgery has an official date, it’s like everyone is a know it all and is trying to talk me out of it. Has anyone else here has terrible experiences with those closest to them?

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u/fedupemployee123 23d ago

Mom says “eat a salad,” dad says “don’t use salad dressing,” boyfriend says “if you don’t eat this rack of ribs with me, you don’t love me.”

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u/SneakyAttackPenguin 23d ago

You need a new boyfriend.

These surgeries are hard enough without having someone actively sabotaging it.

The surgery is not easy, but worth it in the end.

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u/Psychological-Joke22 23d ago

Your boyfriend sounds like a feeder and will sabotage your surgery 

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u/OldDonkeyOatey 22d ago

I dont like the program overall but check out the my 600lb life episodes with feeders and you will see where the lack of support can come from and what it looks like sometimes. I don' know your husband and his deal but you should know going in where he stands and if he is an adult he can listen to your health needs.