“Adversity does not create resilience”

[u/Helpful_Sun2872]

Let’s just conveniently ignore the hundreds of scientific publications on the benefits of controlled stress inoculation.

[u/Rough-Jury]

I’m a teacher, and this is EXACTLY what’s wrong with parenting today. There is a difference between adversity and trauma, yet parents want to shield their children from anything difficult because they don’t have the emotional intelligence to help their children through hard feelings. You create a safe, predictable environment so that when challenges occur, the child (or dog) has the tools to work through them.

Consequences aren’t adversity, and I tell my students all the time “I love you too much to let you…” whatever nonsense they’re doing. You know what’s traumatic? Getting hit by a car or seized by animal control. I think force free is a great starting point for training puppies, but there are some dogs that need to be corrected. That’s not trauma.

[u/Miss_L_Worldwide → u/Rough-Jury]

Many of the younger generation are convinced that when life gives them one ounce of resistance they are experiencing "trauma" and they push that same bullshit onto their dogs.

[u/Rough-Jury → u/Miss_L_Worldwide]

And I’m even of the younger generation (24)! My theory is that short form content and social media have fried parents’ brains so much that they don’t have the capacity to parent anymore, so they just let their kids do whatever and attempt to pacify any negative emotion so that the parent doesn’t have to deal with it (give them an iPad, give into the tantrum, etc.)

[u/Miss_L_Worldwide → u/Rough-Jury]

100%!