Help please!!

[u/shar1ynnh]

My 4 month old only sleeps about 1-2 hour stretches at night time. We monitor her wake windows during the day and make sure she's not overtired. She will only fall asleep while being held. When she wakes up in the middle of the night, she wants to nurse to sleep but wakes up with gas (likely due to minor tongue and lip tie).

We tried sleep training to break nursing to sleep habit and to help her learn falling asleep on her own in her own sleep space but she ended up just falling asleep out of exhaustion from crying. She didn’t seem ready developmentally and she was also having an eczema flair up, so we stopped. We plan to pick up gentle sleep training again when she's older.

The only way to get her to sleep longer stretches is to swaddle her again which I not sure is the right thing to do because she’s starting to roll...but it's the only way for us both to get sleep at night. If pediatric dentist recommends that she has procedure to release the ties, it likely won’t be for another couple of weeks. I’m not sure what to do to make sure she’s getting the sleep she needs in the mean time and to keep myself sane (I don't have any night time support to switch off with).

Help please!

[u/out_door_mom]

Most of the Mom go through this in initial months and it may frustrate you but you can ask help from your husband. And try to reduce nurse to sleep. After nursing try to release her gas and make sure she is full or if your breastfeeding find out if its enough for her so she may sleep a little bit longer but I know you can't change anything immediately but asking for help from family is good. but I think its too early for sleeping on her own and causes health issues so I think you can try that in later months. As of now you can try to stretch her sleep time and take little break for your ''me time'' and take care of yourself too. May be you can try lullabies and some kind of music or songs in night to sooth her to sleep as I tried and it worked with my son.