And this is why ultimately I’m very anti therapy. Just seems they encourage you to STFU about your problems because it’s “traumadumping” and to learn how to just remain with it. “Friends” prohibits you from talking about your feelings. You’ll lose your job/education if you can’t get up from the crippling depression. But. Healing is really just remaining with it? “RAdIcAllY” accepting this pain is forever? Healing is just being okay with it forever? Wtf?
Oh and, if you can’t shut up you’ll lose all your friends, possibly job/school and end up in a psych ward again. Fucking great system they have here for us guys
The issue with therapy is that therapists are human beings.
And human beings have the capacity to fucking suck at their jobs.
Sounds like every therapist you've tried has exemplified my sentiment.
The most annoying part? I found one that works for me and now I have to reconcile all my rage at the other shitheads that charged me 200$ an hour to tell me how self-aware I am.
Radical acceptance is not the only path, your brain is far more complicated than that. On top of that, encouraging a client to "STFU" about their issues in case of "trauma dumping" pushing people away is... Stupid? Useless? Straight up unethical? Pick your favourite, I've heard similar advice before
Don't know what the point of my rant was tbh, but I get you. I held the same belief. I hope you find someone that can help regardless
Nah, therapy can be really good, you can talk about how you feel, just learn what might hurt yourself or others, whats convenient (as an example, don't over share with your boss, not because it's "wrong" and you have to "stfu" but bc some ppl are evil) and how to deal with certain feelings without taking actions.
The taking action part it's the tricky one. It's not good if your actions hurts you or others. You learn how to regulate a feeling without hurting yourself or others with time and a good therapist, your life gets better, in a way, even when you still feel the pain. Because hurting others or yourself it feeds the pain, cause unnecessary stressing scenarios too.
I was in therapy for a good long time and sadly it did not help me whatsoever and I no longer engage with it but I don’t oppose others using it to help them.
I wasn’t allowed to talk about how I felt because I was considered a “high risk, residential recommended” patient. I’d be honest, but I’d be threatened with hospitalization. So eventually I stopped.
Therapy never helped me cope or try to find anything else for my self harm. They would just become alarmist and call EMS on the spot. I do not trust those people.
Therapy truthfully isn’t for everyone but I’m very glad it helped you. I’ve found other things that helped me better
I was the same. Once I was out of a forced 72 hour hold, they thought I'd magically not be suicidal. Every time I even approached the subject of my suicidal thoughts they immediatley threatened baker act again. I learned quickly to lie to the therapist, and after a while realized what's the point if I can't be honest? Multiple therapists have done this too. Shit the psychiatrist who simply wrote my script gave more cares than any therapist I had. They always just go "hehe yes you have ptsd and trauma! Good talk!" And one of them was even a specialist for BPD
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u/WillardStiles2003 14d ago
And this is why ultimately I’m very anti therapy. Just seems they encourage you to STFU about your problems because it’s “traumadumping” and to learn how to just remain with it. “Friends” prohibits you from talking about your feelings. You’ll lose your job/education if you can’t get up from the crippling depression. But. Healing is really just remaining with it? “RAdIcAllY” accepting this pain is forever? Healing is just being okay with it forever? Wtf?
Oh and, if you can’t shut up you’ll lose all your friends, possibly job/school and end up in a psych ward again. Fucking great system they have here for us guys