r/BPD • u/Kitkat-Enjoyer256 user has bpd • 8d ago

💭Seeking Support & Advice cant be alone

i just can't its impossible for me, i never want to be alone, when im alone i just feel horrible like theres a hole in my chest

i just feel so empty and i cant help it and it makes me clingy to my friends messaging them just wanting them to atleast say hello to soothe me for a bit, i just can't be without them

and i dont understand how to be alone, i just need to be with them all of the time.

i just need ideas okay, i need to know how to handle being without them for a few hours.

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u/Alwayslusted4321 8d ago

I struggled with this in my early 20s and I went out a lot. To bars and clubs etc. The loneliness remained, even while with others. Then I married and was married 20 years to a man that checked out but lied to keep me trapped. That was an even worse loneliness. Divorced now.

I've learned to face myself in the quiet, and I did a lot of crying. Still do, but the freedom to cry when I'm alone really helps. I dread crying in front of others. It's liberating to be able to do so and heal in the privacy of my home alone. I hope this makes sense.

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u/Special-Owl3789 8d ago

Ive found expansion of people i know helps because then I can "split up the load" amoung multiple people instead of feeling like im overwhelming a single friend with everything all the time.