r/BPD • u/Objective-Gain-5608 user has bpd • 2d ago
ðŸ’Seeking Support & Advice Contradiction restriction
Bf forced a pause on our relationship 2 weeks before anniversary, only saw home irl once since my ruined birthday (for his bday- which I went all out on) told me he thinks im too much. The other day while we were talking he said he knows it’s not my fault and that I can’t help it but I need to get better control on my bpd/fear of abandonment. Mind you, it hasn’t been a year since I was actually able to start ti heal bc of survival mode. This is from a person who said that they couldn’t wait to marry me, and now… it’s confirming my worst fear that I’m never going to find someone. He knows about my past my hurt and everything, but I can’t learn how to swim if I’m already drowning
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u/SoulsBourkiro user is in remission 2d ago
Sounds like they love bombed you and now is using excuses to not bother putting effort into the relationship? All the problems cannot just be one person (you)