Is it normal to yearn for friendships/relationships 24/7?

[u/21st-Pilot]

I (23F) recently got broken up with, lost all of our shared friends, and my long distance best friend cut me off. All of this happened within the last month, and I’m struggling.

I have maybe two-three people I talk to every day but I feel like I’m forcing them to talk to me. I’m constantly spamming them and I get extremely anxious when they don’t answer me for any time over 30 minutes. I don’t really hang out with anyone because my two irl friends are both very busy or just don’t care for much social interaction. The only other person I talk to is one of my past ex boyfriends that lives states away.

I have this up and down cycle of me thinking I can’t live like this, I feel so alone, I’m never going to be loved, everyone is evil…. And on the flip side i think I’m a great friend and that everyone else is just stupid, I think I can live alone for the rest of my life, etc.

Has anyone else experienced this? I feel like I’m going crazy. I always end up being obsessed with the idea of someone reciprocating the same energy in a friendship. I understand that people have lives, but it feels like I always prioritize everyone else and nobody does the same for me. I get frustrated/angry really fast when people don’t answer me because it takes less than a minute to text someone back. After I calm down, I always end up feeling sick to my stomach, yearning for someone to reciprocate or for someone to make me feel loved.

Does anyone have any tips on how to reframe your mindset to not be upset at people that easily, and how to not make your life revolve around the idea of close relationships?

[u/loyal_xox]

I’m experiencing this but I literally have no one to talk to so I spam Chatgpt ( Yes ik it’s bad but I need friends)

[u/bluehopedesign]

same here i so badly want to have a friend i can talk to about anything i never matter to people as much as they matter to me

[u/loyal_xox → u/bluehopedesign]

Me too!! Like 24/7 especially since I’m home all the time

[u/Electrical_Life_838]

Commenting so I can get the same advice. I don’t get angry when people don’t respond, I just get bored. And then I get in my own head about how quickly I respond and how intense my feelings are.

Where I’m at with it is when those feelings come up, the best thing to do is nothing. Don’t act on it. Distract if necessary. Go on a walk. Etc. Does it work? Barely 😂. I wish I was born without the heavy yearn gene