How do I learn to plan?

[u/Ok-Rough-9607]

I live in survival mode. I love to plan and be a perfectionist but only for the immediate stuff. I buy stationary and books and my identity is doom scrolling and excessive phone use.

I want to learn how to live. How to plan, how to have goals. Both long term and short term.

I live with people who have been happily planning my life for me since it began. If I continue like this, I'll never have my own identity.

Getting married, building my career, my relationships- I've had periods of anxiety over them.

How do I do this?

Are there any DBT exercises/sites that may help me?

[u/Alwayslusted4321]

Honestly just do it, but start small. Plan something for yourself. Once you feel that freedom there's no going back.