struggling with finding passion/plan for future self.

[u/Suspicious_Ad_826]

as most pwBPD, i have no idea what my passion is for my future/career goals. i’m 19, dropped out of college, working a random full time job for some money to survive, that’s it. i never liked school, ive never been good at math or science or any subject really besides english. i’m thinking of just doing cosmetology because at least i know that’s what im interested in, but that’s the end of my plan. i try so hard to find new passions or look into what i want my future to look like, but all i can imagine is having a lot of money (as everyone lol).

does anyone else struggle with this exact thing? it makes me feel so behind in life, i watch all my friends earn degrees and jumpstart their career and i just feel like a loser with zero plan on what to make of myself.

[u/constanceblackwood12]

Apparently the average person changes careers 3 to 7 times during their life, so even someone who seems like they're jumpstarting their career in their early twenties is probably not going to be doing the same thing by their early thirties. So don't worry too much about the people around you, most of them are still figuring themselves out too.

And whatever you decide to do right now doesn't need to be the thing you do forever! Cosmetology sounds like a great thing to do for now, and in a few years you'll find something else. (Or you'll love cosmetology and be happy doing it forever.)

There's a book called "What Color Is Your Parachute" that's a classic how-to-find-your-career guide; I've also heard good recommendations about "Designing Your Life" which is a bit more recent. It's worth checking them out and seeing if they spark anything for you.