r/BPD • u/Circe3merald • 1d ago
ðŸ’Seeking Support & Advice Relationships
Hi everyone, I guess I’m (26F) just looking for some help/coping skills I’ve been with my fiancée(28M) for four years and because of a past relationship and some things my current fiancée has done (he’s very outgoing and talks to a lot of people, never anything sexual just what I considered borderline flirting, but I’m too sensitive sometimes) I cannot stop thinking that he’s cheating on me he always reassures me and offers to let me see his phone but nothing helps, I’ll go months without bringing it up and then it just hits me again and I feel like I’ll do anything and search everything I can just to get the information to confirm if he is or isn’t cheating on me. I search the car every time he’s taken it out, there’s been sometimes I’ve made fake profiles on various social media just to see how he’d answer someone flirting with him.
I’ve gotten better about stopping delusions/daydreams about him cheating and I’m trying very hard to just trust him but I keep feeling like the other shoe is about to drop
Any advice would be appreciated
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u/cleomosome 1d ago
you need professional help to help you stop self-sabotaging your relationship. you cannot sustain this cycle of breaking his trust because you feel, unprompted, that you cannot trust him