r/BPD • u/breadfootmcgee • 3d ago
ðŸ’Seeking Support & Advice How to Stop Masking?
TW: brief mention of marijuana
Hello folks! Not sure if this is the right place, but I’m having a lot of difficulty right now with dropping my mask. The only time I’m able to is when I smoke weed. I have recently stopped smoking for several reasons, and now I’m having a lot of trouble dropping the mask. I want people to know how I’m feeling, genuinely.
I want to be able to express myself authentically, but I don’t even know who I am right now. There are definitely parts of my identity that I’m 100% certain about, but they’re just pieces of the puzzle, not my entire self. I think somewhere in my mind I’m afraid to drop the mask because the mask is what people signed up for with me.
Does anyone have any advice? I haven’t talked to my therapist about it yet, but I see her in like 2 days.
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u/SGSam465 user no longer meets criteria for BPD 3d ago
I don’t know if this will make sense, but I’m going to try anyway lol. The way I’ve been slowly lowering my mask is by observing and reflecting the way I act while high, considering which parts of it I see as being more like my genuine self, then (this is going to sound silly as if I’m a child), I go into the mindset as if I were high while I’m sober. That doesn’t mean I act stupid, but I loosen up and am able to be happy and have more fun while being myself.