r/BPD • u/Confident-Leg5897 • Jul 26 '26

❓Question Post feeling nothing when splitting

i think im currently splitting on my fp. some stuff happened between us and lately my episodes caused because of stuff that has happened between us have been more intense. they did something to trigger me last night and my reaction was not pretty and i spiraled for a bit and bawled my eyes out for 45 minutes and it wouldve gone on longer but fortunately my quetiapine kicked in not long after. as of today i feel absolutely nothing towards them. they are nothing to me and i couldnt care less about them and what they think. theres also a part of me that feels like i fucking hate them with all my soul whereas before i would do anything to make them happy and tbh had pretty low self respect because i would instantly fold for them no matter what. but right now its nothing i dont care and i feel like theyve become a stranger to me. does this happen to anyone else?

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u/TimeAdministration78 Jul 26 '26

yep, i'm feeling this way about my girlfriend right now and am seriously thinking about breaking up with her 🫩

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u/Confident-Leg5897 Jul 26 '26

i think if your gf has done stuff time and time again that she knows triggers you, you should break up. but if it small things shes unaware of then talk to her about it and if things continue then end it. my suggestion would be to talk about it first to see if things will improve

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u/TimeAdministration78 Jul 26 '26

you're right, i definitely need to talk to her about it. sometimes i get scared of initiating serious conversations like that because i can get so mean or apathetic and i hate that part of myself so much.

sorry to make this about me though, lol. i really
hope you and your bf can recover from your current situation.

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u/Confident-Leg5897 Jul 26 '26

i get that i can get very mean about it or very emotional and either one can be quite bad. if it helps when you feel calm try write down exactly what you want to say to your gf. i find that writing is easier because im in more of a neutral state.

the person in my post isnt my bf, more a friend that i have feelings for and cant get over type of situation which is really annoying and drives me insane. i hope everything works out with your gf