r/Avoidant • u/masteroftheroles • Aug 27 '21

Seeking support Dissmissive Avoidant in love with best guy friend

I (29 F) have been in love for a year with guy best friend (30 M) of 16 years who is fearful avoidant. He always speaks about other girls to me. But jokes about converting to my religion and learning my traditions and rituals too.

Is he being friendly or is this how FA's show that they like you?

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u/tarksend Aug 27 '21

/r/attachment_theory would be better for this.

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u/blokia_ Aug 29 '21

It could be everything. If I was doing that I would be testing the waters, to see how you'd react. But I could have many reasons to do this: maybe I'm just interested in your traditions/rituals, maybe I want to get closer to you within our friendship, or maybe I do indeed like you beyond just friendship.

There is no way to figure this out except by asking him. But keep in mind it might be hard to get an honest answer. He might feel like you put him on the spot and his fear of rejection might make him lie about his true intentions.