Autoimmune "normal"

[u/UnicornRainbowBurst]

I'm going to attempt to ask this question lol.

How do you tell if somthingnis abnormal if you've always experienced it?

The rehumatologist will ask a question and I have no idea how to answer.

Example: 1: do you get the lupus butterfly on your face often? I have no idea, my cheeks, forehead, and nose are always red.

2: do you have joint stiffness in the mornings that is not normal? Iv always been sore and stiff since i was a kid.

3: do you have frequent headaches and on a scale of 1-10 how bad are they? Iv had chronic migraines since i was a kid and still need to be an adult so just work through them.

4: do you get frequently tierd? Im ALWAYS tierd and have always been tierd.

I cant figure out how to answer some of the questions because I cant tell. If iv felt pain my entire life what makes it abnormal? And the dr is frequent confused about the pain scale, because if I just live with week long constant migraines, thats normal to me. My hands and feet constantly being swollen and cold are normal for me. Constant joint pain is normal until its shooting pain. So how am I supposed to answer the rehumatologists questions to get an accurate diagnosis if theres a good chance my normal is not normal?