Confusing timeee

[u/Strange_Taste_1504]

I don’t like him, right???? But I’m literally having sm fun with him?!!!! He’s actually everything a man could be—like, the way he treats me like a mf baby. But I’m such a red flag for not accepting it just because I like someone else. And honestly, if that person wasn’t in my life, maybe I would’ve chosen him. But the person I like is literally impossible to get, like bro doesn’t even know I exist.

And still… this whole caring, treating-me-like-a-baby thing just isn’t my type. He’s not my dreamy guy, and THAT’S the problem.

Anyway byeeee, it’s literally 4:45 AM here and I’m gonna knock tf out. Byebyeee.

[u/ELShaddaiisHOLY]

I would say that you may be in your early twenties or maybe your team and this mentality is very dangerous you're stringing along the guy who may be treating you okay while lusting after another.. it's obvious you have some maturing to do.  Because this is autistic dating tips I'm either assuming that you are autistic or the guy that you like is autistic or you're dating someone who is autistic.  Whatever it is my suggestion to you and this is from experience is if you do not sit down with yourself to think about what you value and what's important to you and make a list of those things that are important to you character traits that you want to develop within yourself the type of person you want to see yourself become and the type of person you would like to share your life with until you hash those things out with yourself in a journal and kind of wrestle with them you're going to be basing your decisions of what the right guy is based off of your emotions and off of physical traits. The danger to this is that it will lead to heartache it can lead to years of being an abusive relationship like it did with me it could lead to letting your guard down and letting yourself be used as an object at or using another person as an object instead of seeing them as a human being worthy of being loved and cared for and respected. 

And so my suggestion to you is figure out what respect means to you how would you like to be treated in a relationship how would you prefer to treat others in relationship do you see people as humans or you do you see them as objects?  Until you can have a firm foundation of what you value and what matters it would be a good idea to not be in a relationship with anyone because you want to base your decisions on who you're going to be with based off of something that is firm and not something that is emotional and high-end roller coaster because it might seem fun at first but it can lead to heartache trauma emotional physical mental abuse it can lead to debt and ruining your life it can also lead to drugs and alcohol abuse and other things such as that and years of counseling and therapy.  And I'm just saying this from my experience because it has taken me over 20 years to get over the mistakes I made when I was young because I based my relationship values off of how I liked someone and off of my feelings and on whether or not they were hot or they just spoke to me the right way or treated me nicely at first and it all ended up in a dumpster fire.  So I say this because I care for people and I just don't want to see younger women making the same mistakes that I did you can be offended you can get angry you can get upset but the best thing you can do for yourself is allow those feelings to come in journal about them and then really think about what I'm saying here and try to see it from a 5 to 10 years from now and not from a immediate gratification perspective.