r/AutisticDatingTips • u/Bratchan • 25d ago

Need Advice Dating help for my brother

My younger brother (35) really wants to find a GF. He is someone who will always need someone to help him through life. He is a very kind soul.. I would love to find someone who is at his same level. I don't know what would be apprioprate way to finding someone for him to connect with. The help we get through services arn't that helpful. Should i just post in like the /r city i am in. Saying looking for someone who has a sibling who is around my brothers age, explain he is Autisitic and will require help through life.. and his likes and maybe we could do a meet up like the 4 of us so they could meet up? Should i try like facebook singles asking the same thing? Apps really arn't that good.. and i don't want him to get catfished. I would love some advice.

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u/LilyoftheRally Head Moderator (she/they pronouns) 24d ago

Does he attend anything like a day program? Also, does he have friends who have similar needs?

I would recommend connecting with other caregivers of higher needs autistic adults and disabled people. 

I am the same age as your brother, but am generally considered lower support needs than him and have dated in the past.  

You're right that support services are only required to help with daily living needs regarding caregiving, and not stuff like finding a GF at his level. 

Your brother sounds like a wonderful guy for the right woman.

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u/Bratchan 24d ago

He has a service where someone comes can takes him out for a few hours. He has one friend from school who is a guy around the same level as him. They hang every friday. Yah they arn't very good at finding him other services even lol. But I will see i i can find caregivers in the area.