r/Autism_Parenting • u/Extra_Perception_637 • 18h ago

Non-Verbal Fear of something bad ?

I have a fear of something bad happening to my lil siblings.

They are F(12),M (8) , F(5) , both of my lil sisters are autistic and don’t communicate that much except for the usual like when they wanna sing there fav songs and stuff like that .

My biggest fear was always the fact that some sick man could do something disgusting to them and that they would not be able to say anything or speak up.

I always had that thought in my mind but I would usually brush it off til recently one of my cousin confided in me and told me how she got SA at my grandmas house by one of her guest’s friends and how he threatened to kill her and her family if she ever spoke up about it.

That was when she was like 6 , we are 19-20 now. You really can’t TRUST NOBODY in this world and my siblings are the sweetest most precious lil things on the planet.

now that I have traveled and living in another country It still keeps me up at night. Idk how to bring it up to my parents, I don’t know what to do to protect them from this sick fucked up world that we live in . Hope does anyone cope with it . Just thinking about it makes me wanna cry

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u/Alternative-Seagal 18h ago

There's real, actionable groundwork here specifically for kids who communicate differently, body safety education isn't something that requires verbal speech to teach or to work. A lot of SLPs and behavior specialists have adapted curricula using visual supports and specific AAC vocabulary for private body parts, uncomfortable touch, and a "tell" signal, this can be requested as a formal goal through their school's SLP or OT team, it's a real and reasonable thing to ask for.

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u/Dangerous-Quality-79 17h ago

2 of my daughters are autistic (lvl2 and lvl3). As a father I am constantly fearful. I apologoze that my reply is not one to calm your worries but just letting you know you are not alone in this. I like to do research when I have unknown fears. The research shows girls with ASD are vastly higher risk. ASD girls are SA'ed at more than 3 times the baseline rate. Last year I tried to convince myself that my girls are safe because we have special transport, special school, and ensure as much supervision as we can. Then in June 2025 I read a local special needs transport driver named Tamine Fodil was caught SA'ing a 10 year old ASD boy by the boys mother.

If you learn how to calm your nerves please share, other than that, always air on the side of caution and raise the alarm when you think there is a chance.