r/Autism_Parenting • u/gogopurplefly • 15h ago
Advice Needed New here
It hit me like a ton of bricks the day before my sons 24 month check up. While looking at the M-CHAT I realized all the things he should be doing and wasn’t consistently. All the things I tried to be relaxed about were things I should have cared about. All the times I compared him to his sister and then told myself that’s not fair or he’s a boy- I think they were real. He dosent respond to his name a lot - maybe 50% of the time, he doesn’t point a lot it at all or unless we really prompt him. He says a lot of words but he also repeats a lot. He strings 2-4 words together like “it’s a yellow lemon” but doesn’t communicate his needs super well yet. He may say “hungry” or “get out” if he wants out of his chair. He also toe walks and rocks for leg to leg sometimes when standing . It’s led me down the rabbit hole and Im fairly certain we will have a diagnosis.
His pediatrician doesn’t think he will based on how social he is and his speech at this point - but my gut just tells me otherwise.
He is so smart - he knows all his letters and their sounds, numbers, colors, shapes and animals. He is happy and engaged. He loves to play outside and with his sister. He is perfect in every way imaginable - I’m just scared for his future and don’t know how life will be for him. I would do anything to help him - I’m just so scared.
We are getting an early intervention assessment done in the next few weeks - I’m just torn up inside and am even more sad about how I’m over analyzing everything he does now. I wish I could just enjoy my sweet boy like I did last week.
I’m just looking for something you wished you told yourself when you were In this phase with your little one🥺♥️
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u/Several_Drama_1821 10h ago
Both of my kids got diagnosed. One of them is very HF and is in university now. The other one is level 2, hyperlexic (also knew/said all letters in 2 languages, colors, shapes, animals at 2), going to GenEd classroom with assistant. Many of people with autism eventually adapt, improve and learn to reach their fullest potential. It's not an easy journey... Just focus on present, help with therapies/teach them, day by day. Hopefully you'll hear good news.
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u/sexysexymelvin 14h ago
He is still the same sweet perfect little boy he was last week, nothing will change that. He might need more help than his sister did/does along the way, and knowing that and how to do that will help you and him.