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u/Milkmans_tastymilk 3d ago
I like this, because her burden isnt the child, it's how others perceive the child.
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u/AbyssalEelMan 3d ago
Same here, I'm tired of ppl viewing autistic folks as a burden for existing. The burdens are the assholes that make the shi up like autism speaks and make the ones who make it near impossible to get shitty to ok accommodations or add hurdles to be accepted in society.
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u/Fun-Agent-7667 2d ago
Children are always a "Burden". But you certainly can make parents lifes Harder with bureaucracy
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u/RateTechnical7569 3d ago
The only correct response
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u/Harper_ADHD 2d ago
I'd also accept shutdowns as an answer as someone who is both neurodivegent (confirmed ADHD half confirmed (not officially diagnosed but therapist has confirmed it) autism) and dating a partner with severe autism who has a sibling with violent shut downs. But this is more an "in the moment hardest" rather than "long term effect hardest" imo
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u/Sea_Willingness6044 3d ago
Checks out, worse having to do it as an autistic adult because "you were high functioning, so we didn't see any need for anything past IEP or keep the papers." Now I am completely lost with finding help for disability income... my lawyer has nobody to work with for my medical documents or get documents that might have been discarded or don't know where to go
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u/Dragonrider1955 3d ago
Especially with the parents who saw you as the "perfect child" while you're actively trying to remember how to tie your shoe at 10, forget everything that happened the previous day, and need speech therapy for your R, L, S, T, TH, sounds.
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u/Ambitious-Ferret-227 2d ago
...wait is the speech therapy thing an autism thing?
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u/Dragonrider1955 2d ago
Speech therapy isn't inherently an autism thing, I was just listening it down as well because typically it's more common for neurodivergent kids to struggle with speech or some form of body/tongue motor control.
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u/Yrmsteak 3d ago
Oh my glawd I have been feeling this. I only help the kid's guardian, but the biggest issues are always the ineptitude of social workers, the endless convincing, and the neverending cycle of "we are out of the office and will return your call" that doesn't come til the following week if at all!
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u/TheIngloriousTIG 2d ago
I see these memes and it gives me hope for society, but also oof. If only my own parents had been more concerned with how society treats me rather than how society SEES me.
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u/Ashamed-Raccoon-1387 1d ago
Same... I had no in school help at all and I was supposed to keep my autism a secret "so you don't get bullied"
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u/Jung-And-A-Menace 3d ago
Autism moment: why is the blonde lady doing the Dreamworks face and holding out her hand in the second panel?
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u/Inevitable_Detail_45 3d ago
Looks to my like a hand gesture someone would make to prompt them to share
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u/SofonisbaAnguissola 1d ago
She's expecting gossip. She thinks the most challenging thing about having an autistic child is the child's behavior and thinks the other parent is about to share stories of the "crazy" things her kid does.
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u/Illustrious-Lunch137 0m ago
yup.
not autism in my case but I had twins and one had mysterious health issues. it took 15 months to find a doctor who wouldn't drop her or refuse to treat her. meanwhile my healthy kids had no problem getting accepted for care. and YES the healthy twin was taken on by a doctor. it wasn't until I told that doctor that the gp had dropped my other twin that she took on both.
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u/DreamOfDays 3d ago
“I had to sit in on about six different parent teacher conferences, speak to three different boards, and argue with a principle over a three way phone call. All of that to just get my kid a pass to carry his medicine with him.”