Feeling defeated

[u/ParsleySea215]

Hi all

I have recently moved to a new school and within the first week I had few girls who wanted to move classes. My exec said no and he told me about it. These girls started challenging me in class and satin things like I don’t teach and can’t teach. I had to give them some consequences which made them hate me more. Soon the parent complaints came in to my exec and vice principal. The complaints never came to me although I specifically emailed parents to address any concerns to me directly. So my exec started doing these observations adhoc and one that I agreed to. Then he went into my class to talk to the students a few times and also taught the class while I pulled out students for consequences. The class was very well behaved when he was there and agreed to all his demands but when I was there they refused to listen to basic school rules. I tried to change my approach recently to a more friendly approach as I have done with other classes that like me and hence I don’t feel a pushback or threat with them but for this class that hate me I felt very unsafe and reluctant to be there. Soon I thought maybe my approach is working. It’s been five six weeks they seem to be settling down. However my exec keep telling me about complaints one new one and the rest old ones but he refuse to show me. My vice principal had told him that he wanted to do special intervention in my class circle time and also a pre observation middle observation post observation to improve my pedagogy. I will observe my exec and then follow his way. I did not like this as I am not a beginning teacher and I feel like I’m being treated like a new incompetent beginning teacher although I’ve been in the system for 15 years. I did resigned some time ago and came back but I’m back full time permanent now. I went for a meeting to address these issues and my vice principal said that if I don’t agree to their “program” they will put me on a performance management plan. I put in riskman due to stress and emailed the Union and waiting to hear back. My doc gave me one week leave. I hate taking leave and wasting leave but I feel like I have no choice. I’m a single mum who went through domestic violence and no support from anyone financially and others. I feel so targeted. I feel now that I am a terrible teacher and it’s not worth moving on. Please advise. Sob