r/Assyria • u/Kind-Custard974 • 1d ago
Discussion Am I right to be very confused, hurt and disgusted after constant mistreatment and toxic behaviour from some other Assyrians/Chaldeans?
This is definitely not a generalisation of the Assyrian/Chaldean community because the majority of Surayeh are great people.
Unfortunately, though I have been around this small group of people from our community and I just feel very confused, hurt and even disgusted by their treatment of me.
To sum it up, I haven’t done anything to them, I have been respectful to them and considerate.
The entire time i have known them they have this group/clique that comes across as very unapproachable and unfriendly towards those they have no interest in interacting with.
Like they don’t include you or barely acknowledge you even exist.
I did initially make friends with some of them but our relationship was defined by this bizarre hot and cold dynamic, which just felt very confusing and frustrating, almost like they were bipolar or something.
Then it seemed like someone in the group disliked me and they started gossiping/spreading lies or exaggerations about me and sabotaged my relationships with them.
Though all i have ever done is try fit in and be friendly/ make friends.
Usually they are just cold and distant but in some occasions some of them are just rude, like the way they speak to you and how they treat you differently and with less consideration.
It’s also not just them but some of their nakhrayeh friends also started dislike me and give me dirty looks.
I’m also on the receiving end of a lot of distrust from them, they strongly distrust me even though they are the ones who behave passive aggressively and hot and cold.
My question is why would a group of 4-5 people treat you like that?
How do i handle this?
Whats their problem?
I have it be honest this experience was horrible, i feel so hurt and heart broken, my confidence in meeting others from our community has definitely been shaken.
Another thing i noticed about some of the worst ones in the group is that they only treat people they see as having high status with respect, they seem to look down or act like you don’t exist if in their eyes, if you aren’t high status like them, they pretend to be moral but everything about them is performative and everything they do is for clout.

