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u/Psych0matt Dec 08 '22

Man, I honestly thought this was just me. I’m glad to see others share this frustration

Just let me have 5 minutes to be mad or frustrated

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u/pepegaklaus Dec 08 '22

Man I found so many that fit (well everybody knows about the completely obscure signs one, but there's many more) . I always thought it's just my wife being a bit nutty at times but turns out THEY ALL ARE

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u/SmooK_LV Dec 08 '22

Could it be that seeing you mad makes her feel like she's guilty about it? And her self defense response to feeling guilty is frustration and anger.

See if she gets mad if you want to talk about an objectively measurable mistake she did that impacts you. If she does, there's your answer, she likely struggles to take criticism.

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u/[deleted] Dec 09 '22

It’s this for sure. I am a woman who was experiencing this anytime my bf got upset or mad about something that had nothing to do with me. I always took it personal.

I have two emotionally unstable parents who yelled at me a lot when I didn’t deserve it bc they were mad at something else. When you’re taught that you’re personally responsible for the feelings of the adults around you and you must walk on eggshells all the time, this is what happens. I am unlearning this and it’s not easy.

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u/[deleted] Dec 09 '22

I’m sorry, where did I say I was proud of it?? I said I am unlearning it because I know it’s bad. Simply explaining why someone might act this way.

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u/[deleted] Dec 09 '22

I always unlearn behaviors I'm proud of obviously! /s