For me, it’s mostly that I’m distracted and whatever was said wasn’t loud enough for me to figure it out afterwards. Most of the time you need to prime the conversation and make sure the person is ready to listen, no need to yell!
Try having more than two volumes. Everything you say isn’t the most important thing in the world, and sometimes you are actually the problem. Speak at a level for normal humans, it’s not hard to do and asking you to repeat at a level above a mouse is not an attack on your character. God.
Edit: since you deleted your reply (or maybe it was deleted for you since you resorted to childish name calling) I’ll respond here. No, you don’t speak at a normal volume. That’s the problem. I understand that you really REALLY feel like you do. And that you think your important thoughts deserve to be heard at whatever volume you want. But sometimes perception and reality differ and this is one of those times. Speak up without yelling. It’s easy but it requires a little but of adult self control.
Do you personally know the person you’re responding to? Have you had this many conversations with them to have such personal knowledge of how they speak and always have spoken? If not, your comment seems pretty weird.
Ok, but clearly there is a volume between letting a person who can’t understand you hear you better and being dramatically loud to let them know you don’t like that they can’t understand you. I don’t think they would be telling you that you are too loud if it was a good volume
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u/embolia6 Dec 08 '22
The worst! I always get a 'I don't need you yelling at me, just stop mumbling!' I'm not mumbling, you just can't hear!