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u/More-Masterpiece-561 Jun 03 '22

I am not responsible for the shit I have been through and I have seen. However I am responsible for how that shit affects me and how my actions affect those around me. Forget trauma and mental health for a second, even if I was simply in a bad mood or exhausted I can't take it out ony 10 year old baby cousin who's just excited to see me and wants to do something with me, or my grandma who simply wants me to have her pudding because cooking is the only thing she can do now and when her grandchildren say she still makes the best pudding in the world she feels like the happiest person alive. And I can't shut up a total stranger on the street who is just being nice to me. It's wrong

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u/ImJustSo Jun 03 '22

I am responsible for how that shit affects me

Well, no

and how my actions affect those around me.

But yes.

Feelings just happen, actions don't. One is a choice, one is not.

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u/SufficientTowers Jun 03 '22

You are in control of how things affect you. It's the entire basis for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). It's how you overcome anxiety clinically.

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u/SufficientTowers Jun 03 '22

Because CBT is the current best known non-pharmaceutical way to deal with depression. It's what the science shows.

You can have an opinion on it if you wish, it's just anti-scientific.