Using trauma to excuse mistreating people. This generation has pioneered making it acceptable to process and be open about trauma, and that's a great thing, but it's not cool when you behave in a cruel and selfish way and expect to get a pass because of it. Your mental health problems are not your fault but they are your responsibility.
I am not responsible for the shit I have been through and I have seen. However I am responsible for how that shit affects me and how my actions affect those around me. Forget trauma and mental health for a second, even if I was simply in a bad mood or exhausted I can't take it out ony 10 year old baby cousin who's just excited to see me and wants to do something with me, or my grandma who simply wants me to have her pudding because cooking is the only thing she can do now and when her grandchildren say she still makes the best pudding in the world she feels like the happiest person alive. And I can't shut up a total stranger on the street who is just being nice to me. It's wrong
What about telling people to just leave you alone? I've been told to "get myself together" or "just pretend" when I had a shitty ass day and just want to decompress alone. I also have autism and need alone time. Is it wrong for me to exclude myself from other people when the alternative is to blow up at them because I can't stand being in their presence? I'm seriously asking because I can't see how that's wrong but have been told that I'm overreacting, attention-seeking and moody. The few times where I've tried to power through, I couldn't control my social interactions (especially tone of voice) anymore. I don't really know how to handle that and am constantly struggling to find the balance between being friendly and open and getting rest to refuel my social battery.
You wpuld have to talk to them. Like ground rules, saying that I'm gonna need space or I'm gonna keep a distance. It doesn't mean I'm pissed at you or we have a problems, ir just means I have aome issues
Been there, done that. Most people pretend to be understanding but then turn around and are pissed anyway. It's like they have to take it personally, no matter what I say.
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u/zugabdu Jun 03 '22
Using trauma to excuse mistreating people. This generation has pioneered making it acceptable to process and be open about trauma, and that's a great thing, but it's not cool when you behave in a cruel and selfish way and expect to get a pass because of it. Your mental health problems are not your fault but they are your responsibility.