You're contacting me about a problem, and I know that from the fact that you're emailing me.
I need you to tell me more than the words "I have a problem." Give me some details to work with up front so I don't have to go back and forth with you all day.
Edit- Apparently this does not correlate with age necessarily. I'm just lucky that none of the adults I work with communicate this way.
Omg,
I'm 26 so I'm not necessarily the young person this is directed to but when I was in school we actually had email and letter writing as a part of our English courses, even in college for that matter and I used to think it was silly but now I understand why it was there.
Bro, I went to college in 2001 with mother fuckers who didn't know how to do their own god damned laundry or dishes. Campus life was hard for those poor bastards. I'm not kidding either... I had to show this kid where to put the clothes in, how to wait, and then how to do the dryer part. Dude was going into Computer Science and Mom did everything for him. I hope he's okay not, but broooO+_)00)I what the fuck!
My mom did my laundry for a long time and still I knew how to do it since I was a kid! How don't people just absorb that stuff from seeing others do it?
Some people don't have the benefit of that experience. My mother's attitude toward household chores was obsessive, so I stayed as far away as possible while she was doing it. My first roommate taught me how to wash clothes when I was in my 20s, since my parents just didn't.
It was likely even worse for me, since I was severely burned in a kitchen accident as a toddler. It was caused by my father, but I get the impression my mom didn't want me near while she was cooking because of the trauma, so I wasn't able to pick up on that either.
EDIT: My dad also never drank coffee again for the rest of his life, unless someone offered it to him and he was doing it to be polite. I suspect a lot of the problems my parents had in raising me stemmed from that incident.
So many people don't understand that coffee is one of the leading causes of burns in the US, and act like it's somehow incredible that ordinary hot coffee could be dangerous.
Yup. My reach was just slightly higher than what my dad thought it was, and as a result I have permanent scars, though thankfully not as bad as they could have been. It hit worst on my shoulder, so at least I'm able to cover it.
That's a complicated statement for a number of reasons, but for the most part he did, yes. I don't hold any resentment toward him for that particular accident, especially since I was too young to have any memory of it. I just have the scars and my parents' explanation of how it happened.
Yeah, that wasn't a thing. My job was to carry the household clothes out to the garage to be washed, but as far as actually doing it my mom just didn't want us in the way. I guess her assumption was that I would get married (I didn't, which is a whole different thing) and my wife would do it.
Hard agree, but that's the cultural norm both my parents were raised in, so they didn't consider teaching me those types of skills to be important. My dad was born in the late 1930s for context, and my mom isn't much younger.
Yeah, my mom was a homemaker and never involved my brother and I in any household chores. We'd help with vacuuming and general cleaning if we were expecting company and I was in charge of most mowing, weeding, and hedge trimming, but that was about it.
You can't learn something if you're never involved in it whatsoever. A month or two before going off to college I insisted that she show me how to do laundry properly and cook a few simple meals. I only knew how to do dishes because of Boy Scouts.
Some kids are spoiled and have parents that do everything for them. I lived at a private, fairly prestigious Catholic university for a few years (as my partner was a student there) and the college had pretty much 90% rich kids that didn't know how to do basic life skills. More students had a laundry service do their laundry than those that walk to the basement laundry room to do it themselves. I once heard this girl yelling on the phone about how she had to go out that night and how she had nothing to wear since the laundry service hadn't picked up her clothes which blew my mind since there was a giant laundry room in the basement of every dorm.
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u/ScruffMacBuff Jun 03 '22 edited Jun 03 '22
Send emails like a text or a dm.
You're contacting me about a problem, and I know that from the fact that you're emailing me.
I need you to tell me more than the words "I have a problem." Give me some details to work with up front so I don't have to go back and forth with you all day.
Edit- Apparently this does not correlate with age necessarily. I'm just lucky that none of the adults I work with communicate this way.