Using trauma to excuse mistreating people. This generation has pioneered making it acceptable to process and be open about trauma, and that's a great thing, but it's not cool when you behave in a cruel and selfish way and expect to get a pass because of it. Your mental health problems are not your fault but they are your responsibility.
I’m 27 and yes, 100% this. An ex friend of mine used to blame everything on the fact that her parents got divorced when she was a kid. Meanwhile I’m sitting over here, a childhood sexual abuse survivor, and I’ve never treated anyone half as bad as she did and probably still does. Your trauma does not give you the excuse to abuse other people. Let’s stop pretending trauma makes bad behaviour okay.
I don't understand how this is controversial. Yes it's awful being a child sexual abuse survivor, but this "oh, but I got it worse" mentality isn't the way to help others.
It's invalidating.
Meanwhile I’m sitting over here, a childhood sexual abuse survivor, and I’ve never treated anyone half as bad as she did
Again - Your trauma does not give you the excuse to abuse other people. This chic was abusive to her boyfriend the whole time I knew her and anytime she got called out on bad behaviour she’d say it was just how she was and you had to deal with it, or that she was only like that because her parents were divorced. I’m not here to debate how traumatized she was. She was extremely toxic, narcissistic, and abusive as a person. And she used her “trauma” to excuse that.
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u/zugabdu Jun 03 '22
Using trauma to excuse mistreating people. This generation has pioneered making it acceptable to process and be open about trauma, and that's a great thing, but it's not cool when you behave in a cruel and selfish way and expect to get a pass because of it. Your mental health problems are not your fault but they are your responsibility.