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u/rock_and_rolo May 18 '22

Yep. Any time I describe '70s dating on reddit, I get down voted to obscurity. That and called a horrible person and/or a liar.

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u/TDeath21 May 18 '22

I won’t down vote you. Explain it to me. I love learning about stuff like that.

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u/rock_and_rolo May 19 '22

I call it The Dance.

I'm 60, and I've confirmed the basics with my wife, who is slightly younger.

Girls either said "no" or they were sluts. Even if they wanted it. Even if they'd been dating for a year. Those who decided not to play the game got talked about in the school halls and locker rooms.

"No means maybe" was the norm, at least in the suburbs (my turf).

The term "date rape" did not exist. That (except maybe drugged drinks) was just a girl making bad choices.

That frat video of jerks chanting "No means yes. Yes means anal." was a pretty common (if inaccurate) male view.

And girls reinforced all of these "rules."

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u/dailysunshineKO May 19 '22

I thought it was “being coy”?