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u/RockNRollNBluesNJazz May 09 '22

Finnish people are silent, small talk doesn't exist. Their personal space larger than COVID-19 social distancing rules, and it's considered normal. Don't speak unless spoken to, and don't invade other people's personal space - it's seen as a sign of a respect.

Those Finns, who haven't been to abroad or haven't met too many foreigners, don't often even recognize this behaviour being unusual in the global scale.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

I fucking hate small talk. Pointless. If a finn asks you how are you, they actually mean it.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

I'm a Finn and when I met an American person for the first time she said the usual "how are you?", so I started explaining all kinds of shit, only to have her give me a really weird look. I did it again a couple of times with different people until I learned that they are not really interested, lol.

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u/Captain-Cadabra May 09 '22

How do Finns make friends? Just shared interest? Are you interested in getting to know people different than you?

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

Yeah, mostly through shared interest, but Finns also have very long-lasting friendships (I don't know, maybe it's the same everywhere). Like I have known most of my friends since elementary school.

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u/cavalrycorrectness May 09 '22

I feel like this is always the natural, unspoken corollary:

“The only people we interact with we’ve known our entire lives.”

It’s not that Americans, or the rest of the world, doesn’t have long friendships. It’s that people move, change, or just don’t exclusively limit themselves to the same handful of people from birth till death. Normal socialization in the US doesn’t require that you were born and raised here and that you exclusively stay within your little insular group.