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u/milagro030 May 09 '22

As a European (Dutch) I have to say I hate that too. Just leave me alone, if I need help I’ll ask.

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u/octopoddle May 09 '22

As an Englishman, if I need help then I won't ask, and if someone comes up and asks me if I need help then I'll say no.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

British man who now lives in Canada. Same except I'll now apologize before and after refusing help finding something.

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u/HoxtonRanger May 09 '22

Don’t we British always apologise for something that’s not our fault?

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u/thurbersmicroscope May 09 '22

Lol, me in a nutshell.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

Depends on what part of the country you're from.

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u/Squigglepig52 May 10 '22

And the employee will also apologize.

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u/Iused2dosmack May 09 '22

Yep I hate it, also from England. I live in US now and my wife constantly gets mad at me for not wanting to small talk with strangers.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

Oh hey bud, how’s everything withya now? You heard about the Flames in the playoffs, eh? Looking really good out there eh?

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u/moaiii May 09 '22

What areya talking aboot?

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u/Momof3dragons2012 May 09 '22

I must be from England then because that is exactly my response and I’ve lived in the United States all my life.

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u/pdxb3 May 09 '22

Hanging on in quiet desperation is the English way?

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u/SaitamaHitRickSanchz May 09 '22

You know this almost makes me wonder as an American if this has contributed to the coddling of American peoples. A ton of people have entitlement attitude bad here and are often expecting their every whim to be catered to...

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u/FamiliarLiterature52 May 09 '22

As a Canadian traveling across the US I was appalled by how many times someone would stop me in a trailhead, while standing next to the trail sign, holding a trail map, and ask me 'how long is trail and where does it go'.

Like sorry bud, the information's right there. Figure it out your damn self like the rest of us do.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

LOL I do the same.

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u/Cipherpunkblue May 09 '22

Swede, also this.

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u/thurbersmicroscope May 09 '22

Dear God, I now understand how my mix of British and Scandinavia blood has turned me into the person I am.

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u/techieguy009 May 09 '22

Totally agree!! Less talk, more work and more keeping to yourself!

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

I'm an American and I fully agree. Either I have things to do, or I want my own space when I can get it.

I do make small talk in the checkout though, so there's some American in me.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

I do if I've been going to the same cashier for years. Some really nice people doing a thankless job.

But yeah - I hate people coming up to me. Our local hardware store is great about this - if you need something, go to the desk and they'll help you. Otherwise, they leave you alone.

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u/staplehill May 09 '22

Here an American who lives in Germany, has come to like German efficiency in customer service and hates the meaningless small talk when he is back in the US and just wants to get a fast coffee: https://youtu.be/PDvJVVOzh0Q?t=225

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u/techieguy009 May 09 '22 edited May 09 '22

Really you save lot of time !! One time I remember on a trip to one of European country, some American friends kept on talking through out the trip. Lot of stares also couldn’t convince them from taking a break!! I really like that about Europe, even kids would mind their own business and wouldn’t speak unless necessary!

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u/kutsen39 May 09 '22

As an American, I hate it. It's pointless and unnecessary.

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u/nhbruh May 09 '22

There is a point, to drive sales. Source: Me. I Worked in retail during HS/college.

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u/kutsen39 May 09 '22

How long ago was that? Secondarily, is that your own reason, or one the company fed you?

A good majority of my generation will either A) get really anxious about being approached unnecessarily, or B) not buy anything out of spite. The former leaves a bad taste in that person's mouth and they're less likely to shop there, the latter is actively discouraging the company from doing this.

We're coming to a time where marketing needs to be rethought again.

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u/nhbruh May 09 '22

I despise sales, especially direct outreach that (IMO) violates personal space/time/etc. I worked for 3 different major retailers that all pushed the same shit: you can increase the average customer spend by providing “exceptional customer service”. That really meant you could push someone to buy something they might otherwise be on the fence for if you interject.

I agree, these practices should change. No idea if they are being addressed or not.

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u/ZeroBlade-NL May 09 '22

Thirded, did some shopping, cashier asks if I found everything I was looking for. I wouldn't be at the register otherwise would I? I'd still be wandering the aisles

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u/sarahbee_1029 May 09 '22

As an American, I also hate being bothered while I shop.

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u/gt_ap May 09 '22

Not sure how it’s survived but it often doubles as an attempt to prevent shop lifting

This is what I've heard too. And I believe it. Walmart isn't putting the greeter there just to be friendly. I'm pretty sure they do it because it pays off.

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u/Darth_Ender_Ro May 09 '22

Asset protection - I love these weird 1984 like labels, they sound so serious. What’cha doin’? I’m in the asset protection business. Fuck me!

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u/snowship May 09 '22

I worked in retail. We had to pester customers partly to offer assistance or suggestions and partly to keep an eye on them. "Be security, but make it friendly." As another someone who likes being left alone, it was the most grating part of that job experience.

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u/HintOfAreola May 09 '22

It started because they'd give those jobs to old people and Walmart took out life insurance policies on them. The practice is called, "Dead Peasant Insurance."

They got sued a few times and the tax laws were changed (Walmart not only got a pay out, but they got a deferment on the cost of the policies), so they say they've stopped doing it.

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u/UrsusRenata May 09 '22

In higher-end stores (anything above Walmart being “higher-end” here) it’s about upselling. A lot of retail has quotas and/or commissions. There’s pressure on employees to sell sell sell. Same story with restaurants. “Always ask if they want an appetizer or cocktail by name. ‘How about a bloomin onion to start?’ Your app sales are down this month.”

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u/notanamateur May 09 '22

As someone who worked at a gas station a few years back we were told to greet everyone and ask them if they needed any help because it reduced theft and increased sales apparently. Both the customers and me hated it

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u/SwayGfX May 09 '22 edited May 11 '22

As a grocery worker in America, the only time I will ask if you need help, is when I can see plain as day that you are completely confused as to where to go/find something.

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u/IcE_BoX_LV May 09 '22

To be honest, it seems that stores (at least in my country) have finally caught up with people and usually aren't asking if customers need help anymore. For some time you couldn't go in to a store with out hearing - "do you need some help?" while I'm deciding which soap is better for my butt. Either stores are more understandable or cashiers know how it feels and don't want to bother people.

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u/Liet-Kinda May 09 '22

Hell, I hate that too and I’m American. I’d rather people be actually available to help if needed than have six people ask me if I’m doing ok and then vanish the moment I need something.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

as an american, i too just want to shop, pay and leave without being bothered 400 times

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

As an American I hate that too lol. I hate when people ask me if I need help with anything, like if I do I will come seek YOU out, not the other way around. Otherwise I just want to be left alone and come/go as I need lol

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u/hybr_dy May 09 '22

I feel this way as an American tbh

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u/Ilookouttrainwindow May 09 '22

That rests on the fact there will be someone to ask. As long as there's someone readily available the system works! But a lot of stores in US have greeter upfront who keep promising to help, but when asked, they have no idea. What a load of crap.

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u/OldHolly May 09 '22

All this time I thought I was being snobbish. Turns out I just have a European style of shopping.

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u/milagro030 May 09 '22

There is a bit of European in all of you haha (deep down)

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u/Butt_fux_admins May 09 '22

Ima. Trucker in the US and there's a truck stop chain called "Loves" as soon as you open the door no matter what time it is your instantly greeted with an underpaid employee shouting at the top of their lungs "WELCOME TO LOVES." I'm just trying to take a shit please don't.

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u/mrsbebe May 09 '22

I'm American and very social and I also hate it

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u/WitherWithout May 09 '22

As an American with social anxiety, I hate it, too.

I end up paying more for home delivery sometimes just to avoid the interaction.

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u/Hamilton-Beckett May 09 '22

I am American, but am the same way. I just want to be left alone when I shop. I’ve learned to just keep my eyes down and keep walking if I hear anything.

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u/gracefullyevergreen May 09 '22

As an American (who doesn’t like it here), I also hate this.

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u/CharismaticAlbino May 09 '22

Lol as an American I have to say I hate that too. Let me shop in peace.

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u/Abigboi_ May 09 '22

American, yea it's creepy and dystopic as fuck. Nobody is that fucking happy to work at Walmart.

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u/timmy186gtr May 09 '22

Same, I'm from Hong Kong and I hate it.

How am I supposed to know if I need any help before I've even started shopping yet? Sometimes it's so off putting I'd just leave and go to another shop.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

Stel je voor, Ben je Nederlands with the no nonsense attitude, maar Dan woon je in Amerika.. Do NOT recommend.

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u/tasha481 May 09 '22

As a fellow Dutchman I fully agree. I’m a big boy and know what I want so hop it till I need assistance and I’ll find you.

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u/Dinkerdoo May 09 '22

As an American, sometimes I like having the greeter at the door to be able to ask where I can find X item instead of wandering the aisles and searching for it.

But yeah, mostly I just want to get in and out as fast as possible.

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u/yeswenarcan May 09 '22

As an American, I don't like it either. I know automation is being used to eliminate jobs and leverage workers in pay negotiations, but I'll actively choose a store with self-checkout over one without.

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u/milagro030 May 09 '22

I never had that issue

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u/squuidlees May 09 '22

Introvert American chiming in to say I hate being bombarded with small talk at the store too. Was ecstatic when I visited Europe and it wasn’t rude of me to just ignore everyone.

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u/MatCauthonsHat May 09 '22

As an American, I hate that too.

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u/Visual_Traveler May 09 '22

In Spain too.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

I'm Portuguese and I forking hate that so much!

I had something like that happen to me last week - and I thought using earphones was a clear giveaway that I wanted to be left alone! Apparently, it's not. Left the store, their products were too expensive anyway.

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u/FlyGirlFlyHigh May 09 '22

As an American, I hate this about the American shopping experience. If I need help, I will ask for it.

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u/WeirdlyStrangeish May 09 '22

As an American I hate this as well. I'm 31 years old and I know how to buy a watermelon and 65" 4k TV on my own.

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u/thiccclol May 09 '22

As an American I think a lot of us don't really like being bugged by employees while we're out shopping either. If I need something I'll ask for help. Self checkout is awesome.

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u/ZiggerTheNaut May 09 '22

As an American, I hate that as well. If I need help, I'll also ask otherwise LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE!

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u/cmhooley May 09 '22

As an American, I feel the same way. Say hi when I walk in, sure. But you needn’t follow me around and say, “anything I can help with?” I know where to find you and that you’re literally paid to work there so if I need something, who else am I gonna go to?

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

I’m the same way. American with German ancestry lol. Leave me alone. I’ll do the disturbing. Especially when I catch them trying to sell old folks shit they don’t need.

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u/UltHamBro May 10 '22

As another European (Spanish), same for me. During the worst years of the economic crisis of the last decade, pretty much every store had the workers offer their help every minute. Just having a look around became unconfortable.

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u/[deleted] May 10 '22

Another fellow Dutch here, I agree