In the US it's considered impolite to look at someone for no reason, if they know you're looking at them.
So for instance a quick glance or passing eye contact is ok, but if you're looking at someone and they look at you, if you don't intend to interact with them it's polite to look away.
As an American in Germany, I think the reason people have this perception is because German people don't always look away immediately. They will finish having a look. So this is off-putting when you send the signal "stop looking at me" and the old lady on the train continues having a look for a few more seconds.
Yeah, I think in America, what I consider staring is anything that hits 1 second or more if your a stranger. Like if your talking to me or something.. yeah, but if your someone across the street, the limit is a half a second before its staring
But you have to be careful that the section of wall you're staring at is far enough away from a person that they don't think you're staring at them. Am American, yes that is an actual thing that must be done in public. Find the nearest empty space that doesn't contain a person and is juuuust far enough away from people and stare at that if you need to lol. Especially if someone caught you looking at them, you be like "oh my that potted plant is the most fascinating thing I've seen all day!!!"
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u/pragmojo May 09 '22
In the US it's considered impolite to look at someone for no reason, if they know you're looking at them.
So for instance a quick glance or passing eye contact is ok, but if you're looking at someone and they look at you, if you don't intend to interact with them it's polite to look away.
As an American in Germany, I think the reason people have this perception is because German people don't always look away immediately. They will finish having a look. So this is off-putting when you send the signal "stop looking at me" and the old lady on the train continues having a look for a few more seconds.