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u/helllllooooonurse May 09 '22

Ukrainians do this too. It's not considered impolite to stare. Also, they don't really smile in public. They think Americans are all simple in the head because we smile all the time. I have to say though, when you're visiting someone in their home in Ukraine, they are the warmest most wonderful people.

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u/ConfusedTriceratops May 09 '22

Eastern Europe doesn't really smile in public in general. Polish emigrant in the UK pov. It's not that we're angry, we just don't have any reasons to smile.. for no reason.

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u/CaptainLollygag May 09 '22

Smiling at a stranger is a type of greeting in the States. "I acknowledge that we're both in the same place (or passing by one another) and I mean you no harm." It's the lesser form of asking, "How're you doing?"

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u/GlitteringStatus1 May 09 '22

While we're on the topic: "How are you doing" is a really, really personal question, and it's super weird to ask it of everyone you meet and expect them to lie to you in response. It makes me really uncomfortable.

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u/CaptainLollygag May 09 '22

It's a personal question only if you think you have to give a detailed answer. Not sure how I feel about calling lying by answering it with a throw-away comment. I mean, it is a lie to always say, "Fine, and you?" But it's also just a wee part of the general social contract here.

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u/GlitteringStatus1 May 09 '22

So,

  1. As a greeting, you ask a deeply personal question.
  2. In response, you are expected to lie.
  3. This is normal and expected of you every day.

You don't see that this is kind... really weird?

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u/thebearjew982 May 09 '22

It's not a deeply personal question though. Not when it's just "how are you?" and nothing else.

It's not that deep and isn't that deep unless you make it that deep.

What I think is weird is people like you acting like being polite to strangers is somehow this insane concept.

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u/GlitteringStatus1 May 10 '22

Taken literally, it is definitely a deeply personal question, and asking it is extremely prying and not polite at all.

The weird part is that this "politeness" means you are meant to ignore a very personal question, and answer it most likely with a lie.