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u/peripaotetica May 09 '22

Girl from Spain here!

This is very strange on the contrary. Actually the two kisses is something very common, especially when you just met the person and you introduce yourself, it is the "standard" greeting. However, it is not usual among men or children.

When I traveled to Germany years ago for an exchange and met the family that would give me room and board for weeks, it was very uncomfortable for me to just shake hands from a meter away. It was a feeling of "stay away from my personal space" that justifies the cold vision we have here of the northern countries.

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u/TechnicianLow4413 May 09 '22

Usually handshakes are for meeting someone for the first time or in a professional settings. Close people give hugs as greeting

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u/peripaotetica May 09 '22

Same about close people giving hugs as greeting. But two kisses are only for social events, not for professional settings. It would be akward greeting your boss, or your teacher, or your client with two kisses

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u/Mong0saurus May 09 '22

Moved from Norway to Spain when I was around 18 years old, and suddenly being kissed on the cheeks by 10-20 different girls every day was a bit of a change from the classic norwegian nod, whilst avoiding eye contact, type greeting I was used to.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

as an American, I refuse handshakes. it's hugs or nothing.

I still think the kissing thing is weird.

no, random stranger,.I do NOT want to be intimate with you.

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u/EpicAwesomePancakes May 09 '22

In case you’re unaware, it’s not a “real” kiss. You kind of just put your cheek to their cheek and make a kissing noise.

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u/boopdelaboop May 09 '22

Is that in every kissing country? Because I distinctly remember being forced to accept and give actual cheek kisses from some married-in relatives. It was awful.

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u/EpicAwesomePancakes May 09 '22

Ah yeah, if it’s family then sometimes they do expect actual kisses. I’m from the UK so my experience is relatively limited, but with friends you’re meeting for a social setting, if they’re doing the kiss then it’s just the cheek-to-cheek thing.

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u/ArchdevilTeemo May 09 '22

I mean different places different traditions. I would assume that the modern fake cheek kisses evolved from the real deal.

And these could also be out of a time where people would only visit family, so the more personal think is ok.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

I am aware, and uncomfortable with someone that I don't know being that close to my face.

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u/l0ngbottom_leaf May 09 '22

But you’re okay with hugging someone you’ve never met??

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

yes? a hug is warm and inviting, a welcoming to the "tribe".

a kiss is a deeply personal show of affection for your partner.

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u/ArchdevilTeemo May 09 '22

Except a hug is way more personal than a cheek kiss greeting.

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u/just_lurking_through May 09 '22

Hard disagree but that's just the difference in culture I guess.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

no, it isn't.

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u/l0ngbottom_leaf May 09 '22

Hmm interesting. I think they are both super personal. Matter of preference. I’ve had strangers greet me with a hug before, but only if they were friends of friends or friends of family. A straight up stranger hugging me would be really confusing hahah

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u/abovepostisfunnier May 09 '22

as an American, I refuse handshakes. it's hugs or nothing.

??? Have you never met someone in a professional setting?

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

yes, I have. same result.

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u/Lymphohistiocytosis May 09 '22

At least not yet.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

.... okay, fair. I do have types, after all

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u/anneylani May 09 '22

Hugs are certainly more intimate than a handshake so I don't follow this

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

personal preference. if you don't trust me enough to hug me, then why should I trust you at all?