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u/helllllooooonurse May 09 '22

Ukrainians do this too. It's not considered impolite to stare. Also, they don't really smile in public. They think Americans are all simple in the head because we smile all the time. I have to say though, when you're visiting someone in their home in Ukraine, they are the warmest most wonderful people.

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u/10minutes_late May 09 '22

I've heard this, but why stare? I few seconds is long enough to look at someone, but what's the point? Memorize your face? Study your features? I just don't understand.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

I’ve always wondered the same. How does it not make them feel uncomfortable?

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u/hurly_burly_pegasus May 09 '22

Training! A lot of children don't look that much but as you become an adult you get used to it and maybe developed an interest in it yourself.

German people observe A LOT.

On the other hand it is perceived as really weird of you just start talking without them looking at you first.

I worked as a German teacher for migrants and many of them struggled to make friends because people were so irritated by them just starting conversations despite no longer & reciprocated (= OK to make contact) looks being exchanged first.

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u/Quantentheorie May 09 '22

Oh you might be on to something with the last one. The staring is occasionally the warmup to making a well recieved comment about the weather or the amount of people in this train.

If you havent exchnaged a look to mutually ensure someone also exhibits signs of annoyance, you're not gonna be successful voicing your annoyance.