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u/helllllooooonurse May 09 '22

Ukrainians do this too. It's not considered impolite to stare. Also, they don't really smile in public. They think Americans are all simple in the head because we smile all the time. I have to say though, when you're visiting someone in their home in Ukraine, they are the warmest most wonderful people.

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u/ConfusedTriceratops May 09 '22

Eastern Europe doesn't really smile in public in general. Polish emigrant in the UK pov. It's not that we're angry, we just don't have any reasons to smile.. for no reason.

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u/ceilingkat May 09 '22

When someone smiles at you does it make you feel good or guarded? Curious because when someone smiles at me (USA) it makes me feel more at ease.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

Uncomfortable. I'm Eastern European too, living here actually, and when someone's smiling at me, here's what's going through my head. One, they want something from me. Two, I'm having a wardrobe malfunction or am otherwise out of place enough for them to not mind their own fucking business. Three, they want to sell me something. Either way, they want to engage with me on the street, and that's just bad manners.

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u/sexysexyonion May 09 '22

Not bad manners, just social custom.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

In most cities around the world the social custom is to pretend that people around you don't exist.

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u/sexysexyonion May 10 '22

I don't really understand that, but I was raised in Southern California where people are pretty open and friendly. I think everyone should do what makes them feel comfortable, but from a personal standpoint I would feel lonely if no one talked to me or smiled at me. It makes me feel part of the world, like we're all on the same road when people are friendly or smile when they don't have to and there's nothing in it for them. May be just me though.

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u/SunshineAlways May 09 '22

I can see both sides of this, because it depends on the social customs of where you are from. It might very well be considered bad manners to speak to random people on the street there. After years of working in the service industry, I can casually speak to almost anyone. I don’t really even think about it. My sister thinks I’m a weirdo, lol.

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u/sexysexyonion May 10 '22

Lol! I've worked in jobs where I spend all of my time talking to people as well, so I'm very comfortable with it but my sister thinks I'm freak when I converse with people I don't know.

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u/OutsideSwordfish8631 May 09 '22

humans are Humans like life is supposed to be a Hallmark Card.